A friend told me recently that she used to be a really positive person
but the harsh environment and competition of the industry turned her
into a rather bitter person. Can't be compassionate when the world
requires you to be strong rather than be vigorously stepped on and
taken advantage of. She recounted the experience of an unhappy
childhood leading to determination to step out of the rut and equip
herself with hope and aspirations. She says taking the reins of
leadership and decision making made her somewhat unable to be the
ideally good person she had set out to be. "Weathered" she called
But to stop there and continue being "weathered" is almost like putting
on a lid to any more expectations and goodness. Not being positive, not
being negative but being status quo. Does that sound familiar to you?
It will not lead to risky apertures, or violent crashing hopes, life
was just bearable so long as roles are met.
Those were the words of a disappointed soul. I felt they were familiar
because I told myself those things every single day previously. And
when I did see people who had stepped out of their fears and designated
zones of safety, I was almost anticipating with bated breath to see if
they would crash and burn. That was because I had already fought their
battles and lost all of them for them. Naturally when some endured
their grueling tests, they won my admiration and those that did not,
well, it was "expected".
These days, being a failed pessimist and a new optimist I see it bright
and clear. You'll be in the pursuit of happiness so long as you possess
the right attitudes. You may want to fight a battle but the "mind is
willing, flesh is weak" syndrome may tamper with your state of mind. To
be prepared meant correcting the heart and mind and remaining focused.
Once you start out with positivity and you meet little rocks of
negative influences, fear not. Fall or trip slightly only to slowly
come up again. You've already left the stagnant inaction behind, a
little trip is fine, it can motivate you to hurry on to catch up again.
Armancio Ortega was a clerk in a shirt store. That's right, just like
one of those guys who run around to help you get T shirts and sometimes
when you're being a jerk 10 T shirts and you say you don't want any in
the end. He borrowed 25 bucks from his wife and started making gowns in
his living room.
In 1975, the man opened his first ZARA store. He is now 2009, Spain's
richest man and according to Forbes the 10th richest main in the world.
We can always look at 25 dollars and see it as a few burgers, a few
books, drinks or basically nothing. 25 dollars can be a dream, a goal
and enterprise. Do you think he thought this far when he made his first
OF course he did. If you did not, it's because you still find it
difficult to believe that you can be successful and great. When other
people laugh and tell you things like these don't fly out of the sky,
remember this again and again and again. If Einstein said this, and we
all know Einstein knows better, so listen hard:
"Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities.
The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly
submit to hereditary prejudices, but honestly and courageously uses his
intelligence and fulfills the duty to express the results of his
thought in clear form."
Don't blame your critics. They don't know! So instead of agreeing with them, smile knowing you have a secret.
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