The people who believe in you and those naysayers who don't are similar
in that they are people who aren't 100 percent sure. Who can know for
sure if you would definitely be a roaring success? They can give you
all their votes of confidence but being mortal flesh and blood, doubt
and uncertainty can creep in at some point. I know this, because I have
had experiences with real, solid good people who did waver at some
point and c'mon, you and I waver too. This also means the people who
are negative and do not have faith in you are also in the same camp.
They aren't right for sure if you'd fail. They may say they think, or
hope with all their heart, but most likely if they do that, it means
they actually believe more that you might have a shot at it, proving
them wrong. Looking at the odds, it's pretty clear it comes down to
you. If you're tuned to listen to the ones that say " Back down, back
off" then your fragile character will allow you to be swayed and
maneuvered to inaction, passivity and negativity. You'd end up in
So, since that choice remained with you, it's not that tricky. Decide
to take the good ol' cheesy vote of confidence and good faith. After I
became a more positive person, believing that strength from God is the
only factor that I ever needed, some friends teased me about being
"holier-than-thou" and I teased myself too, but hey, it's better than
being morbid and walking around hoping to burn someone on a stake
everyday for championing optimism and hope.
I honestly think it's nicer when someone says you're being a cheesy lil
peach than people say that your cynicism hurts them or that it brings
them down, or that it drives you to depression.
You know, there are always going to be mean spirited people everywhere.
Even when you've lightened up, or got yourself a sensible head on your
shoulders. Why, I once heard the most ludicrous statement from someone
who told me that you may as well slam someone since some other person
would more or less slam you anyway without your knowledge.
I have a profane dislike for meanness. I think whoever reading this
would chuckle wondering who doesn't right? :) You'd be surprised at how
many people actually embrace meanness. It's not an armor to protect, or
self preservation as some may volunteer to explain. Meanness, mean
spirited natures just reflect weakness in character.
Just watch reality tv and look at how snippets of supposed camaraderie
end up in shocking bailouts and twisted vote offs. I think Survivor is
a good example or The Biggest Loser.
Is this really human nature? Some justify it so plainly as if a fact
like that made it permissible for slip ups and cruelty. How then does
one educate their kids or future kids? Do you tell them to be kind no
matter what, or to be kind selectively using their superb superfluous
wisdom to discern the deserving from undeserving recipients of their
attitudes? In that line of logic, isn't it a failure of that structure
once again, when someone does originally set out with good intentions
but gets a hard knock and shatter along the way, decide to opt for the
unkind alternative? Given that cynicism paves the way to unkindness and
whimsical, cheesy positivity is kindness in blind optimism?
Im not saying be blindly or stupidly positive.
Be positive because it is good for you. Forget about the bad,the ugly
and mean world out there. They exist and so do you. But they may fade
and go away while you'd be fortified and stronger if you chose to be
brave and have faith.
PS: God bless you dear friends for this coming week and I mean that with all my heart.:)
"There is no personal charm so great as the charm of a cheerful temperament."
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