The people who believe in you and those naysayers who don't are similar in that they are people who aren't 100 percent sure. Who can know for sure if you would definitely be a roaring success? They can give you all their votes of confidence but being mortal flesh and blood, doubt and uncertainty can creep in at some point. I know this, because I have had experiences with real, solid good people who did waver at some point and c'mon, you and I waver too. This also means the people who are negative and do not have faith in you are also in the same camp. They aren't right for sure if you'd fail. They may say they think, or hope with all their heart, but most likely if they do that, it means they actually believe more that you might have a shot at it, proving them wrong. Looking at the odds, it's pretty clear it comes down to you. If you're tuned to listen to the ones that say " Back down, back off" then your fragile character will allow you to be swayed and maneuvered to inaction, passivity and negativity. You'd end up in depression.
So, since that choice remained with you, it's not that tricky. Decide to take the good ol' cheesy vote of confidence and good faith. After I became a more positive person, believing that strength from God is the only factor that I ever needed, some friends teased me about being "holier-than-thou" and I teased myself too, but hey, it's better than being morbid and walking around hoping to burn someone on a stake everyday for championing optimism and hope.
I honestly think it's nicer when someone says you're being a cheesy lil peach than people say that your cynicism hurts them or that it brings them down, or that it drives you to depression.
You know, there are always going to be mean spirited people everywhere. Even when you've lightened up, or got yourself a sensible head on your shoulders. Why, I once heard the most ludicrous statement from someone who told me that you may as well slam someone since some other person would more or less slam you anyway without your knowledge.
I have a profane dislike for meanness. I think whoever reading this would chuckle wondering who doesn't right? :) You'd be surprised at how many people actually embrace meanness. It's not an armor to protect, or self preservation as some may volunteer to explain. Meanness, mean spirited natures just reflect weakness in character.
Just watch reality tv and look at how snippets of supposed camaraderie end up in shocking bailouts and twisted vote offs. I think Survivor is a good example or The Biggest Loser.
Is this really human nature? Some justify it so plainly as if a fact like that made it permissible for slip ups and cruelty. How then does one educate their kids or future kids? Do you tell them to be kind no matter what, or to be kind selectively using their superb superfluous wisdom to discern the deserving from undeserving recipients of their attitudes? In that line of logic, isn't it a failure of that structure once again, when someone does originally set out with good intentions but gets a hard knock and shatter along the way, decide to opt for the unkind alternative? Given that cynicism paves the way to unkindness and whimsical, cheesy positivity is kindness in blind optimism?
Im not saying be blindly or stupidly positive.
Be positive because it is good for you. Forget about the bad,the ugly and mean world out there. They exist and so do you. But they may fade and go away while you'd be fortified and stronger if you chose to be brave and have faith.
PS: God bless you dear friends for this coming week and I mean that with all my heart.:)
"There is no personal charm so great as the charm of a cheerful temperament."
Henry Van Dyke
Be inspired and inspire.