My mum did something very sweet the other time. She fed me. I really
wasn't even paying attention since I was feeling sick. But suddenly,
almost as if it was a closeup shot, I pored into my mother's face and
saw how I must first have looked when she fed me as a baby, a toddler
then probably a messy overgrown toddler. You know the feeling was
indescribable. My friends who became mothers told me how it felt like
to feed a child and feel maternal, but this very minute I had the
fortune of experiencing it again as the baby, reliving the whole
experience. And it felt very safe, Very very safe. Why safe?
Because when we were little babies in cots and crying till the cows
came home, we didn't know how to express our rage or hunger. We just
wailed and wailed. And when nobody came to our rescue, we felt scared
and wailed louder. When mum comes with her cajoling arms and tries to
make us smile with her little tricks and squeaky voices, instantly we
felt safe. Truthfully, every mother is an actress. She has to do so
many impersonations and get into multiple characters just to eke a tiny
smile out of her little one. Mothers are amazing characters, so awfully
amazing that I cannot understand how mothers can be mothers when
physically the process of being pregnant with a child is so long and
painful and another long and painful process of delivery. And another
long and painful process of watching the child grow up.
That kind of maternal love is sort of different from the romantic love
you get from being fed. When mum fed me I felt so small all over again.
I just shrank into the sublime awe of her parental stature, it was so
close, and perhaps because I like absorbing moments like a vacumn, I
felt like I was an over the top soaked sponge.
The she uttered those magical words
"You'll be alright."
Pearl S. Buck
Some are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is love just the same; and most mothers kiss and scold together.
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