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Gregory C. Rivers
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Good intentions. Disastrous results.

Back in 2007, I was helping a friend with their computer in their home, which I had done on multiple occasions in return for their friendship and the occasional bowl of noodles. They trusted me and I valued that trust, so much so that I made an effort to not see anything on the computer that was private including messages, photos and passwords.

At the time while testing their printer, I came across a great sporting photo of their spouse. We have a semi-professional printer at home and I thought I'd surprise them by adjusting and printing the photo, so I emailed the photo to myself and deleted the email from the computer to keep it a surprise. Unfortunately, the photo completely slipped my mind and I never got around to printing it out for them.

Today, almost 18 months later having had practically no contact with this friend, I learn that they've been upset with me since that day on the computer. They had heard the 'whoosh' sound of the email going out and questioned me about it immediately. Apparently, I balked for 2 minutes before telling them about the photo and that made them suspect that I had stolen it from the computer ('stolen' would be technically true although in my mind, I was 'borrowing' the photo, to be deleted once it had been printed). When they couldn't find the email, it only confirmed their suspicions. That I never got around to actually printing the photo, well…

On occasion, good intentions can have disastrous consequences. My friend and their spouse believe I stole the photo for personal use, no longer trust me, and are no longer my friends. Ouch! My apologies have been heard but not believed.

Trust is a delicate thing. It takes a long time to build but can be lost in the blink of an eye, or in this case the time it takes to email a photo.

over 11 years ago 0 likes  7 comments  0 shares
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That's too bad. Although what you did technically is wrong, but I must say a true friend will also give you the benefit of a doubt and forgive & forget. True friends are hard to come by so i guess we'll have to leave it to faith to match us with the one that we care about.
over 11 years ago
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ouch... trust is a delicate thing... once it has been broken, it takes "forever" to build it up again... but hopefully your friend will forget about this someday and hope the friendship can start again... =)
over 11 years ago
Rottendoubt a4 patrick
hmm, ya, it was probably not a good idea to take the photo regardless of intentions.... maybe it would have been better to ask ... like "hey this is a nice photo, could i have a copy of it?"
over 11 years ago
Mariejost 26 dsc00460
This was your friend's wife. Some things couples really do want to keep private. I guess you learned where your friend draws the line. About all you can do is chalk this one up to a "learning experience".
over 11 years ago
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That's unfortunate. Sometimes good intentions go wayward.
over 11 years ago
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I am sorry to hear abt this. Friendship is fragile. Perhaps the only thing you could do for them is to bless them with warm wishes once in a while to show that you care. whether or not they respond, as long as you have done your part, that is good enough. Try your best, God will do the rest. Cheers
over 11 years ago
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Well...friendship is something so hard to control nor explain. I guess it takes two to make it work again. So all the best Greg. Anywya, what are u busy with now?
over 11 years ago

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