People so often cause more trouble by trying to be kind than just being honest. People fear communicating the truth - especially when it hurts.
A friend fell in love with a boy who is really too much of a player - something she didn't understand because they'd never communicated about it So when she started showing her desire to be his girlfriend, he backed away - but instead of saying "this will never work" - he didn't want to hurt her feelings probably and said "Maybe someday we can be together." So she is waiting in pain.
It's scary to be the one to hurt someone, but it's the right thing to do sometimes. Sometimes you need to hurt someone and feel bad about it in order to free them (and yourself).
Time and time again it seems like the problems people talk to me about are all simple miscommunication where one person is afraid to tell someone the truth.
Do not value words more than action. Whatever is the the reality - is the REALITY. Not what people are telling you is the reality.
If you have a hard time figuring out what is real - here is a little exercise. Let's do the example like you're this girl.
Ask yourself where you are right now - where he is right now.
You: home alone, sad.
Him: with some other girl.
Now - just because he says "Maybe some day." Means nothing. He's just too afraid to watch you cry. So, since he has no courage, you'll just have to do the work yourself and believe the reality vs. the fantasy.
This works with many things. Look at yourself and what you're doing right now. Is it not correlating with your perception of reality?
Your own first impression: I'm a writer.
What you're doing right now: Watching TV because I'm tired after working at the day job all day.
So - are you a writer or a TV watcher? You're a TV watcher!
Anyway - do people a favor now and then and hurt them.
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