The Guidance of "Ain't Gonna Happen"

I usually write about the industry - but this is really just about people.

The Guidance of "Ain't Gonna Happen"

There are many things in life that would be awesome. Some of these things happen right from birth. Wouldn't it be awesome if you were born into being a billionaire? Wouldn't it be awesome if you had supermodel genes and everyone admired your beauty all the time and you never had to work at it?

But we are born into what we are born into and most people are pretty good at accepting this. They may rebel against it - become an overachiever to compensate for a poor childhood, a workout health nut to compensate for a non supermodel gene set - or they may just own who they are. Either way, it's pretty easy to accept that another reality "Ain't Gonna Happen."

As life goes on though it becomes much more tricky. We start to have goals and aspirations. We live in a culture (in the West at least) where aspirations and dreams are encouraged. They are our folklore and our stories of inspiration.

Sometimes however, these aspirations become a prison which makes us unhappy and by letting them go, we actually can find a greater level of happiness. Other than shelter and nourishment, most of the things we want to happen are usually things we made up because we felt they should be that way.

Sometimes they are things we want because we feel it is normal.

If your family is cold and aloof - it's perfectly reasonable for you to have wanted a more loving family. If your father threatens to disown you when you don't obey his wishes - you might want to have a father who would love you unconditionally. Well, that ain't gonna happen. This is no different than being born rich or poor. Unfortunately we don't get to control the world and so we don't get to make people have certain reactions to us.

So in these situations, in order to regain power and freedom over our lives, we need to let go of what we think we want and accept that this "Ain't Gonna Happen." And by letting it go, empower ourselves and free ourselves from a losing battle and save our energy for those things which will bring us more happiness.

If you are in love with someone who treats you poorly. Everything you've tried, they continue to fall back on treating you poorly. It ain't gonna happen, let it go. You can't change anyone.

Have a crush on a girl or guy who doesn't really show much interest? Ain't gonna happen.

The things you desire from life are things you've chosen to want. You can choose other things.