Friday, Dec 4, 2009 8:35PM / Members only
It
sounds unbelievable but there is an increasing number of new lipstick
lesbians around, and these can be grouped into what we like to call fake
lipstick lesbians. There are a couple of different types.
Firstly, thanks to the male fascination with lesbian sex, there are
women who work in the porn industry who have sex with other women for
financial gain. These are always feminine women as they have to attract
and arouse a male audience. They are not real lesbians at all; they
probably get off the set and go home to their boyfriends, or husbands.
They are just into lesbianism for the money. These are easy to identify;
dumb blondes, or brunettes, on the covers of lesbian porn movies with
fake boobs and plastic surgery galore. You are hardly likely to bump
into them in your local bar, though!
The second set of fake lipstick lesbians we want to draw to your
attention are much more dangerous. An increasing number of straight
women are actually using lesbian advances to their advantage! They are
either "trying out lesbianism" to impress friends, or they are actually
using it as a male pulling tactic. As the majority of men get incredibly
turned on when they see two feminine women kiss, many straight women
will pounce on friends, or unsuspecting lesbians, to draw attention to
themselves and pull men! These are much harder to identify, but if you
happen to come across a woman hanging out in your district with her eye
on the men as she chats to you then avoid at all costs unless you want
to spend time getting to know whether she's real, or fake. If in any
doubt, your gaydar should never fail you so trust your gut instincts!
Thirdly and finally, you shouldn't believe that you are safe at work
either! If you have a high powered career; nice car; fabulous home; and
three holidays a year then word soon gets about! There are gold diggers
in the fake lipstick lesbian world and they often see highly successful
lesbian women as an easy target in comparison to men. Some of your
female employees will find the dollar or pound signs flashing before
their eyes, and, before they or you know it, they will turn lesbian and
make sexual advances to either get themselves promoted, or get their
hands on your well-earned cash! It's best to not mix business with
pleasure!
If you find that a recent promotion or step up in your financial
position increases the number of women who express sexual attraction to
you in your neighborhood beware of them, as well. Many of them will be
straight women wanting a piece of your lifestyle! In this situation it's
best to rule yourself with your head, rather than your heart, and -
although this is often incredibly difficult for us emotional lesbians -
it does save heartache in the long run
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Friday, Dec 4, 2009 8:33PM / Members only
There's
few things more devastating or harder to deal with, than being in a
committed relationship and finding out that your lover has cheated on
you. Even if you are in an 'open' relationship, just finding out that
something was done behind your back, and 'secretly' is the same as an
infidelity. There's no worse hurt than to feel trusting of your
partner's fidelity, to allow yourself this trust, and then to find out
that you weren't the only one sharing his bed! That knowledge alone has
the ability to break your heart and can cause you to call an end to your
relationship immediately. The other option can sometimes be to carry on
with the relationship, but to never be able to feel secure in it again,
but rather to have it hosted with your day-to-day policing of his each
and every move!
Once you have discovered your significant other is cheating you have
two basic choices - you can stay, or you can leave. Problems,
unfortunately, will occur in both instances. If you go you'll have to
deal with a broken heart; may go through a time where you wonder why
this has happened to you; and may lose the ability to feel secure and
trusting in any future relationships. On the flip side of that, you may
choose to stay - in which case, you will go through a l-o-n-g period of
mistrust, which is understandable, and a lot - I mean an awful LOT - of
work to repair your tarnished relationship.
There really is no easy way to decide what to do, and no easy
solution to getting yourself or your relationship where it was in the
'pre-infidelity' stage. If you and your partner had a mutual decision to
have other partners 'on the side', that is fine - but if one of you is
committed, and the other is interested in seeing more than one person,
there will be a problem. And monogamy is something that is just not
suitable for some men. Unfortunately, this fact doesn't make you feel
any better, especially if you believed you were in a committed
relationship - in fact, it is quite unfair to you. Loss of trust is a
huge issue in any relationship, whether it be a personal or a working
relationship, and you can expect to spend your days wondering where your
lover is, or if he is telling you the truth and being faithful.
It is important that you realize that your partner's cheating
rarely, if ever, had anything to do with something you did! If your
lover were completely dissatisfied with your relationship, he would not
have been in it to begin with. Even if he was, it was his job to
confront the situation (or you), or to end the relationship…not to
cheat. His cheating is not about you at all, but rather an issue with
him, himself. Still, you may feel compelled to find out the reason
'why'. You feel that if you can just get to the 'why' of the infidelity
then you would be able to insure that it never happens again. If you are
seriously interested in staying with your lover even after he has
cheated on you then now is the time to have a deep discussion with him.
You need to find out if he cheated on you because he wasn't interested
in being monogamous. If this is the case then you may need to decide if
you can share him.
Poly relationships work well for many homosexual men. If you are
okay with him being with other men, or even if you share them together,
then your relationship may be able to survive. However, if you cannot
handle the thought of sharing him, and he cannot be monogamous, there is
no real way to save the relationship and you may just have to cut your
losses and move on. If he is able to admit that he needs to be with
other men to be happy - and you cannot handle that - then end the
relationship now. You will never be happy, and chances are you will end
up paying for it far worse down the road, than if you leave ASAP -
before any more of your heart and hopes are invested.
Remember, commitment is not for every man, and, unfortunately, some
of them don't realize that until they are hurting some really great
guys. However, at some point you will see that it's really not you, and
you will find a guy that appreciates all you have to offer! Until then
you need to be able to realize that relationships have to be filled with
compromise. If your partner cannot fill your needs - no matter how much
you love him - he will never be the one for you. The key to true
relationship happiness lies within the ability to accept, trust, and be
honest with each other. If you can't have this in your relationship,
then the relationship doesn't exist to begin with. And remember, no
relationship is worth giving up your self-respect and peace of mind
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