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2008-11-23 2:26PM / 會員可以看
Don’t ever save anything for a special occasion . Every day you’re alive is a special occasion .
“Someday” and “one of these days” are losing their grip on my vocabulary . If it’s a worth seeing or hearing or doing , I want to see and hear and do it now . I am trying very hard not to pur off , hold back , or save anything that would add laughter and lustre to our lives .
And every morning when I open my eyes , I tell myself that every day , every minute , every breath truly , is … a gift from God .
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2008-11-18 3:17PM / 會員可以看
John Lennon once said , ‘ Life is what’s happening while we’re busy making other plans . ’ When we’re busy making ‘other plans’, our children are busy growing up , the people we love are moving away and dying , our bodies are getting out of shape , and our dreams are slipping away . In short , we miss out on life .
Many people live as if life were a dress rehearsal for some latter date . It isn’t . In fact , no one has a guarantee that he or she will be here tomorrow . Now is the only time we have , and the only time that we have any control over . When our attention is in the present moment , we push fear from our minds . Fear is the concern over events that might happen in the future—we won’t have enough money , our children will get into trouble , we will get old and die , whatever .
To combat fear , the best strategy is to learn to bring your attention back to the present . Practice keeping your attention on the here and now . Your efforts will pay great dividends .
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2008-11-17 5:25PM / 會員可以看
Once a circle missed a wedge . The circle wanted to be whole , so it went around looking for its missing piece . But because it was incomplete and therefore could roll only very slowly , it admired the flowers along the way . It chatted with worms . It enjoyed the sunshine . It found lots of different pieces , but none of them fit . So it left them all by the side of the road kept on searching . Then one day the circle found a piece that fit perfectly . It was so happy . Now it could be whole , with nothing missing . It incorporated the missing piece into itself and began to roll . Now that it was a perfect circle , it could roll very fast , too fast to notice the flowers or talking to the worms . When it realized how different the world seemed when it rolled so quickly , it stopped , left its found piece by the side of the road and rolled slowly away .
The lesson of the story , I suggested , was that in some strange sense we are more whole when we are missing something . The man who has everything is in some ways a poor man . He will never know what it feels like to yearn , to hope , to nourish his soul with the dream of something better . He will never know the experience of having someone who loves him give him something he was always wanted or never had .
There is a wholeness about the person who has come to terms with his limitations , who has been brave enough to let go of his unrealistic dreams and not feel like a failure for doing so . There is a wholeness about the man or woman who has learned that he or she is strong enough to go through a tragedy and survive , who can lose someone and still feel like a complete person .
Life is not a trap set for us by God so that he can condemn us for failing . Life is not a spelling bee , where no mattter how many words you’ve gotten right , you’re disqualified if you make one mistake . Life is more like a baseball season , where even the best team loses one-third of its games and even the worst team has its days of brilliance . Our goal is to win more games than we lose .
When we accept that imperfection is part of being human , and when we can continue rolling through life and appreciate it , we will have achieved a wholeness that others can only aspire to . That , I believe , is what God asks of us – not “Be perfect ”, not “Don’t even make a mistake”, but “Be whole .”
If we brave enough to love , strong enough to forgive , generous enough to rejoice in another’s happiness , and wise enough to know there is enough love to go around for us all , then we can achieve a fulfillment that no other living creature will ever know .
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2008-11-15 10:01AM / 會員可以看
Each of us owes it to our parents , our spouse ,our children , our friends to be as happy as we can .
I was not a particularly happy child , and like most teenagers , I took pleasure in my anguish . One day , however , it occurred to me that I was taking the easy way out . Anyone could be unhappy ; it took no courage and effort . True achievement lay in struggling to be happy . The notion that we have to work at happiness comes as news to many people . We assume it’s a feeling that comes as a result of good things that just happen to us , things over which we have little or no control . But the opposite is true : happiness is largely under control . It is a battle to be fought and not a feeling to be awaited . To achieve a happy life , it’s necessary to overcome some stumbling blocks , three of which are :
Comparison with others ; Images of perfection ; “Missing Tile”Syndrome .
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2008-11-14 10:48AM / 會員可以看
To a large degree , the measure of our peace of mind is determined by how much we are able to live in the present moment . Irrespective of what happened yesterday or last year , and what may or may not happen tomorrow , the present moment is where you are —— always !Without question , many of us have mastered the neurotic art of spending much of our lives worrying about a variety of things —— all at once .We allow past problems and future concerns to dominate our present moments , so much so that we end up anxious , frustrated , depressed , and hopeless . On the filp side , we also postpone our gratification , our stated priorities , and our happiness , often convincing ourselves that ‘someday’ will be better than today . Unfortunately , the same mental dynamics that tell us to look toward the future will only repeat themselves so that ’someday’ never actually arrives .
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