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stick to live happily
Wednesday, May 28, 2008 11:56AM / /
After earthquake, I think I should stick to live happily.
Life is not a series of misfortunes or even lucky happenstance. Certainly, both are a part of life. And life goes on in spite of its vicissitudes. But we are largely in control of our own destines. We are not only acted upon in this world, but an actor upon it. We should be happy everyday but still remember that happiness is what we make of it. I am a living breathing person in this God-for-sake world. I should be bound to live my life in its fullest measure.
I feel lucky, kicking and alive after the quake, although there are still aftershocks. I thought the building would crush when quake happened. But I have great parents. And I was not alone. I have to make a full measure day by day with some plan along the horizon. And I'm fully enmeshed in the vibrant colors, sounds, taste, and sensations of this world. I know we can build our home better than before. Where there is life, there is hope. Mother Nature’s power is beyond human-beings. With the wiliness and determination, people can move the mountain. We shall overcome.
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Women's gay friends
Tuesday, May 6, 2008 12:24AM / /
True friendship does not exist between women and men unless the men are gays.
I’d love to have a gay friend. He can be my best buddy, soul mate, and close friend. But there is no guarantee in life. Some of these so-called gay friends may hook you up by this lame reason. And also, “I’m a gay” is the easiest way to break up with you.
The gay friends could be really good at shopping. They tell you what looks good on you and they are so sensitive about fashion. They are really open about their feelings. Most of them would like to lean a shoulder to their female friends when their female friends are sad. To some extent, gay friends enrich my life. Some of them have more insightful perspective about friendship, love, fun, and FASHION.
They are not straight. So I would feel more comfortable around them. And I would tell them things I don’t tell straight men.
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Insomnia
Sunday, May 4, 2008 1:19AM / /
What can I do on these sleepless nights?
I thought too much these days but I failed to release myself. Then I asked google. At last, I found my mental illness referring to psychology.
Repetition Compulsion is psychological phenomenon in which a person repeats a traumatic event or its circumstances over and over again. This includes reenacting the event or putting oneself in situations that have a high probability of the event occurring again. This "re-living" can also take the form of dreams, repeating the story of what happened, and even hallucination.
One idea is a passive form, in which one chooses his or her most familiar experiences consistently as a means to deal with problems of the past. For example, one may choose to stay with a "normal" pattern of pain and chaos instead of risking the perceived trauma of new experiences. Someone experiencing repetition compulsion might believe that new experiences will be more painful than their present situation or too new and untested to imagine.
Another is a participatory form, wherein a person actively engages in behavīor that mimics an earlier stressor, either deliberately or unconsciously. In particular, this is often described by the statement that events that are terrifying in childhood become sources of attraction in adulthood. For instance, a person who was spanked as a child may incorporate this into their adult sexual practices. Another example is a victim of sexual abuse, who may attempt to seduce another person of authority in his or her life (such as their boss or therapist). Psychoanalysts describe this as an attempt at mastery of their feelings and experience, in the sense that they unconsciously want to go through the same situation but that it not result negatively as it did in the past.
“It’s better for the doer to undo what he has done.” This golden maxim is not that useful now. It’s better for a man to cruel himself on his own.
Why Do Some People Choose One Bad Relationship After Another?
Stop Repeating the Past:10 Ways to Break Away From Repetition Compulsion
CHILDREN WHO ARE TRAUMATIZED BY BULLYING
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Fall in love with this tranquil night
Friday, May 2, 2008 2:12AM / /
I don’t know when I fall in love with this tranquil night.
Everything becomes so clear and clean under the coverage of the boundless darkness. The night teaches me how to keep a tranquil state of mind. So clam the night could be as still as dark waves.
Time is a puzzle. It runs around the earth but does not treat everyone the same. Some people are living either in your future or in your past. We call it time-difference. Some people survive and live longer but some died young. That is the life span.
Einstein said: “Time and space and gravitation have no separate existence from matter.” When scientists figure out the mystery between time and space, could we transform the time and the space as we hope? If so, neither distance nor time-difference would disturb human-beings. People can sell their time to buy a near location between each other; or they can cost a far distance to gain much more time. I think that is how the time machine been made of.
Henry D. Thoreau said: “We are enabled to apprehend at all what is sublime and noble only by the perpetual instilling and drenching of the reality that surrounds us. We can never have enough of nature.” People now who are living in the metropolis need to get close with nature. I can hear vehicles across the streets and night owls are making noises at the corners of the streets. Nowadays, the night in the city is not as perfect as the night of our ancestors living.
On this quiet night, I clam myself down with the rhythm of typing. Tumult, desperation, depression, sadness and loss are all put away by this tolerant night. After all, tomorrow is another day.
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Book List: Book List
Thursday, May 1, 2008 6:51PM / /
Rob Gifford : China Road
Gill Bates : China: The Balance Sheet
John Pomfret : Chinese Lessons
Peter Hessler : River Town
Ian Johnson : Wild Grass
