CSI犯罪現場的演員-Archie Kao

I like to know what you guys do in your real life. some of the people on this website I have been in contact with through the forum for many years and have often wondered what they did when not in front of their Keyboards.

:) Ooh, thank you for clarifying that!

Ha ha.  I really WAS talking about stray cats and dogs.  I think it gives you an insight into my mushy soul.  That's why I don't trust myself.

Finances have never, fortunately been a problem for my mom. She's the typical, won't let you pay for anything, sneak money in your car, kind of mom. I just got my brother-in-law to understand that if he drives her somewhere, her paying for gas or lunch etc. makes her feel good. She 'wants' to do it.

Haha, strays? I avoid all that by just not goint out with any possible 'stray'. I don't have a problem with saying 'this is not going to go anywhere', I have a problem with finding someone that I want it to 'go somewhere' with and then letting go once I've fallen and he turns out to be not the best fish in the sea. I'd say you have to really be a huge screw up to get me out of love with you once I get there. I'm diehard. Long, slow, crashsite diehard. NOT good for me.

But it takes a LOT for a guy to qualify. So, that's a good thing.

True. I've started to help out quite a bit financially at home. Don't really mind because I've always wanted to give back to my parents, so it's just a small way for me to at the moment.

I used to say, I don't go out on dates, I go out on relationships!  Almost every one of my "dates" turned long-term,  That's why I don't trust me.  I also take in stray cats and rescue dogs.

Well, Cass I think everyone, almost everyone has to recognize that some day their parents are going to need them to be almost parent-like.

Haha, Flag. Just when I think I want to find someone to take care of me, I remember that even that has it's burdens. I think I'd prefer someone I could just travel with or date and maybe we'd be engaged for about 50 years. You go to home to your house, I'll go to mine, let's see a movie occasionally.

Of course, being me, I'd fall in love and that would totally ruin a good thing. Oy! Why can't we be less complex creatures?

I was always totally honest with my men.  I can be less than humble and tell you my attributes but I'll also be up front about my quirks and failures.  I've never met a man who was that honest with me.  It's like, who is this person after a while.  So with my last and final husband I said....I'm not good at this, and I gave it up.   I'm still open to a miracle and that's what it would take I think.  We'll have to meet sometime halfway across the state and have dinner sometime.  Then we can pick some guys up at a truck stop.  Hehehehehe.   No, I remember, that wasn't fun, with CB blaring in my ear.  

We're gorgeous dames NB, let's not ever forget that!!!   That's my story anyway.

No worries. I'm just quietly following the discussion. Sorry to hear what you both have to go through.

Yes, it's life. But that can be sad. :P

Ugh, when I think what my sis went through before she found her husband...and still I look at marriage as a burden. A burden I do not want. Or all of the preliminary fooling each other that comes before it.

Tsk, what a cynic.

No, it's not sad.  It's just real life.

My mom has more energy than most her age, but she is slowing down.  And she's had two minor heart attacks.  How do we know?  Only after she was tested after she took a spill hanging Christmas decorations a few years ago, and the damage was there.  We never knew anything about it, and she didn't remember anything.  

But the truth is, like you said "go, go, go" was their philosophy.  I'm convinced all the walking my mom did has gotten her this far.  She's finally beginning to say "I'm tired, I'm going home."  

OK, enough of this.  Let's just enjoy each other while we can.  

As for men...pfffft...I gave up on that one a long time ago.  Someone will have to parachute into my yard for me to notice him.  

My older sister got engaged a while back (and they just broke up, forever would be ok with me) but I looked at the guy and thought, at my age, would I even think about taking on an older guy whose blood pressure makes him look like he's ready to explode?  No thanks.  I'll stick with the cats and dogs.  At least you can put them to sleep.  Hehehehe

Just remembered to say I'm not ignoring you, Cass. :)

Well, of course it's not that you mind giving back. My mom is the best. She gets tired sooner since this heart thing. She can't go, go, go the way she'd like to, but she had a rough childhood. With five brothers and her doing most of the work for them like laundry, ironing, cooking...and she took care of her parents when they got old. So, it's not that.

But, it is difficult in a way because, living in the boonies, and not really being able to get out and all the men here are either not relationship material or they're married, you feel a bit desperate about the time that's passing. I don't mean in a pathetic kind of way. I'm not sure I ever really want to get married. You know, one more person to look after etc. I can't explain it. Some days you just want to be free. Other people your age are doing things you can't, and then you wonder where the time is going.

But my mom will never go into a home. I've seen a lot of those places with my uncle. I know there comes a point where it can't be helped, but she's not going there just because I'm tired or my sis is tired. No way. We took care of my stepfather at home until he passed away and we couldn't do any less for my mom.

I'm glad your mom can still get out there and 'piddle around' as my late aunt who loved being out in her yard 'piddling' with her flowers, would say. It's so awful when they can't do that any longer. They get sad and the fading away begins. So, bless her heart.


My, this has turned sad. How did that happen?!

I haven't been moved to blog but I have something to say DAILY on others' blogs!  Half of the time they're "secondary blogs" they're so long!  I feel a purge coming on....

Mom's on blood thinners too but at 85 (86 in August) she loves to work outside.  There's 27 acres here, a creek, woods....she can get into all kinds of trouble.  She goes out to pull weeds and she returns bloodied.  Every scratch turns into an FX award winner.  She won't even notice that all her scratches are bleeding all over.  But you know NB, it's what she likes to do.  And it's not like she's hemorrhaging.  It must be terrible to lose your personal autonomy.

Getting her to take pills is a real ordeal, but that's another story.  My two sisters and I love our nutty mom and we each do our share in things.  But so far, she's still taking daily care of herself, and considering her condition, that's a blessing.  

It's a hard job to be the only one doing what you do.  But when you have a giving parent like my Mom, when she needs it, it's time to give back.  With my mom it's less her health than her mental condition.  She's been losing it to Alzheimers for years, but she's been stabilized, no just very slowly deteriorating, because she's been on the Alzheimer's drugs.   What she's lost, we'll never get back.  It's too bad, she was a very intelligent woman, now she can't even do her crosswords in the a.m.

So I guess blogs are what you want them to be.  It does help you get to know people better---not necessarily more intimately, but more accurately

Flag, we'd take up all the space allowed talking about that! Contrary to what seemed to be popular opinion here a while back, I am not spoiled by my family or treated like a princess. I wish. My best friend really laughed about that accusation.

Right now I'm the caretaker for my mom. I do it all. Appts., meds, bp checks, I've done blood thinner injections, etc.

She was in the hospital for the entire month of June last year while the doctors put my sis and I on a bungee cord of 'Yes, she's having open heart surgery' and 'No, she doesn't need it.' She had a blood vessel burst after a heart catherization and almost bled to death, and she passed out at home with me twice.
Getting to visit her in the hospital in Pittsburgh meant four hours on the road each time. But thank God they took good care of her and over a year later she wants a cataract removed. It makes me nervous because she's on blood thinners and I don't want any repeat of the blood vessel incident.

I'm rambing. IS that what you do in blogs? Ramble? I'm terrible at blogs.

Aside from seeing what everyone's up to, guess I just enjoy hearing about other people's lives and thoughts. Sure they may not always be interesting, but I'll still read them anyway.

I don't read them for literary value.  I read them because I check up on friends and listen to what's bothering them or just general BS. Write what you feel like writing about, and if someone is bored by it, fuckem.  But if you wanna talk about moms and doctor's appointments, whew, I could share stories.