I wrote this on fb, as a comment to a family member;) it sorta grew into a big long winded but meaningful message that i needed to write to hear:)
What about Romans 12:9-21?
9 Love MUST be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.
10 Be devoted to one another in LOVE. Honor one another above yourselves.
11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your SPIRITUAL FEVER!!!! (WOOHHOOO) , serving the Lord.
12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
13 Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.
14 BLESS those who persecute you; bless and do NOT curse.
15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.
16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.
17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone.
18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on YOU, live at peace with everyone. (no one can control another person, there would be no wars if ppl would realize this...you cant change them, but they dont have to change you for the worst.)
9 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. WooOO HooOOO!! hes got this!
20 On the contrary:
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”
21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
If you try to live your life biased on "self" all your doing is feeding into your flesh. pride, entitlement, judgmental thoughts, all of which take away from Gods calling on your life. If I let my self live by self worth, My whole world would be one moody happy grumpy score keeping roller coaster of emotion. Sure you can talk yourself into a state of being, but the devil is just waiting to put THAT to the test. I guarantee the pumped up self sufficient you will fail. Dont be an idiot, its moment like that that make the devil smile. Shouldnt our family history prove this all the more? how many generations have to go thru the same cycles until we stop trying to control others, letting them control your actions and dig a bigger hole for the next generation.
The real question here is, and yes its the question we all need to ask ourselves multiple times a day!!!! What would Jesus do? If this makes you laugh, or think of the Jesus freak movement back in the 90s with the bracelets and t shirts, you are missing the point. In every action, there is an opportunity to shine for God. Was Jesus being selfish when he healed the sick and drove out demons? was Jesus being selfish when he fed the hungry? Was Jesus thinking about himself when he SUFFERED AND GAVE HIS LIFE for our sins? Knowing that so many would mock him.
This life is not about being a door mat. Its all how you see it. Sure a door mat gets walked on, muddy boots get stomped and wiped all over, my dog PEES on my door mat!!! But the door mat is a tool, useful, welcoming and needed to bring people safely into the warmth and safety of the home. Christians are called to be tools for God. Like door mats;) We are called to LOVE one another, even more so our enemies. So that thru us, they too might see the light and be welcomed into Gods family. There is nothing the Blood of Jesus cant wash away. If we keep tru to the faith, and seek HIS guidance, we can see we are not really door mats being used and abused, carrying around everyone elses muddy messy burdens... We are servants to the God most high, and dearly loved children of God. THAT is the truth of self. The sooner we (im talking about our family) start living it out, the sooner we can fully claim our inheritance as Gods children. and really experience love and life to the fullest. There is such a GREAT Calling! Why are none of us wanting to LISTEN? cycles go round and round for a reason. They have to be broken to bleed out the poison.