10 ways to Spark

Was reading a magazine and came upon an interesting article that I would like to share. I think it’s something that men would love to read or know about.

Have you come upon some really unpleasant sexual experience? Or perhaps not being turned on at all by your man?

Guys, these are some things that you need to learn.

10 ways to upgrade your romance ‘in the room’:-

1/ Foreplay

Very important key thing, but surprisingly not many men does it. Why?

The article wrote, we always shower before we hit the pool. We wash our hands before we eat. We do warm ups before we exercise. All these are necessary, therefore I have to say Foreplay is definitely a must before sex. I do not know about other women, but for me, I do think it is essential. Foreplay helps to build the mood, in fact a very intensive one if you know how to play it well. It does increase sexuality and of course not argument after that LOL

2/ Respect

Learn to honour someone else’s feelings, needs and peeves. Discover the Do’s and Don’ts in a relationship.

When we girls want it, we do want it. When we don’t want it, we say no, and when we say no, we do mean it. That doesn’t mean you can take advantage of us (doesn’t matter if you’re my husband, boyfriend or partner for that matters). We have our moments when we don’t feel ‘sexy’ especially during that time of the month. We really do not want sex.

3/ Good Undies

I don’t have to explain much on this point. Sometimes dressing a little sexy can be a real turn on in bed. Holey panties, stinky undies, pee-stained boxers etc are definitely a ‘No-No’. It would be such a put off.

4/ Proactive

Intimacy doesn’t work on autopilot, you need to be proactive and passionate to light that spark. I bet you it would be a good night after that.

5/ Bedroom Manner

I think ‘No Talk About Work’ in bedroom is one rule should bare in mind. Whatever goes in bed should be something more sweet and intimacy just between the couple. When negative stuff being brought on to bed, anything good might seem to turn out bad, as you’re putting your frustration on the most romantic place.

6/ Induce Romance

Out of 10 men I know, I think only half a man (yes half…) would be romantic. Perhaps it is the culture we are in. We Asian are unlike Westerners who knows how to show a lady a good time. How to be romantic? once my boyfriend asked. My boyfriend is someone who is NOT romantic at all. He is also very forgetful, so you won’t expect any birthday/anniversary surprises from him. After knowing him for long, I began to learn to accept who he is and be less grumpy when he doesn’t take me out for a movie or nice candle light dinner.

If you’re looking forward to a date or anniversary with your wife/girlfriend, do shower them with flower or a little gift and a nice dinner. Once away have a get away with your partner, set the mood right. Romance IS the fuel for intimacy.

I can tell you that I would be dragging my guy to bed to show him a good night if he were to surprise me with good gift hahahahahahahahaha

7/ Be Adventurous

There is nothing sexier to see a man enjoying himself. Being adventurous and not afraid to try something new can be such a turn on. I remember once I was really attracted to this guy. Although he is from UK and not familiar with our Asian culture (especially from where I am from, Malaysia, a country filled with multi-race and culture), I just couldn’t take my eyes of him, when I saw him able to accept the culture and enjoy himself with all the food. I had so much fun with him, till I have fallen for him.

8/ Grooming

Now, this grooming is not just the outer beauty but also applies to.. well your naked body.. Starts from the basic by brushing teeth (important guys! No women or men like to kiss someone with bad breath…). Some girls like hairy man, I prefer mine not so. So waxing your back and chest would be something nice. Ladies could once awhile go sexy with bikini wax. Being well groomed inside out brings extra confidence and attractiveness to oneself.

9/ You Are What You Wear

Even I have problem with this. I am never the usual ladylike person. I grew up in tees & jeans. A tom-boy I was. So can’t blame people to look/judge you by the way you dress. If you have great booty, get a pair of nice sexy n fitting jeans to show it off (as long they don’t cut your blood circulation), put on a nice tee to show off your toned biceps. Ladies, is nice to slip into something comfy even just a skirt and baby tee. But, who cares… If you’re hot, you’re HOT, regardless what you wear.

10/ Have Fun

Don’t be afraid to have fun! I like how they interpret this. Romance is not a chore. Indeed, it is not. It can’t be planned or scheduled like some doctor’s appointment. Neither can it be fully theorized in a book. It’s the chemistry between the two that heat up that spark. By hitting all the points mentioned above, bet that spark will change your life and probably create a flame that would probably melt an iced mountain :P

The above are summarized by me and words partially taken from FACES June issue (#91) 2008.

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