Was reading a magazine and came upon an interesting article that I would like to share. I think it’s something that men would love to read or know about.

 

Have you come upon some really unpleasant sexual experience? Or perhaps not being turned on at all by your man?

Guys, these are some things that you need to learn.

10 ways to upgrade your romance ‘in the room’:-

1/ Foreplay

Very important key thing, but surprisingly not many men does it. Why?

The article wrote, we always shower before we hit the pool. We wash our hands before we eat. We do warm ups before we exercise. All these are necessary, therefore I have to say Foreplay is definitely a must before sex. I do not know about other women, but for me, I do think it is essential. Foreplay helps to build the mood, in fact a very intensive one if you know how to play it well. It does increase sexuality and of course not argument after that LOL

 

2/ Respect

Learn to honour someone else’s feelings, needs and peeves. Discover the Do’s and Don’ts in a relationship.

When we girls want it, we do want it. When we don’t want it, we say no, and when we say no, we do mean it. That doesn’t mean you can take advantage of us (doesn’t matter if you’re my husband, boyfriend or partner for that matters). We have our moments when we don’t feel ‘sexy’ especially during that time of the month. We really do not want sex.

 

3/ Good Undies

I don’t have to explain much on this point. Sometimes dressing a little sexy can be a real turn on in bed. Holey panties, stinky undies, pee-stained boxers etc are definitely a ‘No-No’. It would be such a put off.

 

4/ Proactive

Intimacy doesn’t work on autopilot, you need to be proactive and passionate to light that spark. I bet you it would be a good night after that.

 

5/ Bedroom Manner

I think ‘No Talk About Work’ in bedroom is one rule should bare in mind. Whatever goes in bed should be something more sweet and intimacy just between the couple. When negative stuff being brought on to bed, anything good might seem to turn out bad, as you’re putting your frustration on the most romantic place.

 

6/ Induce Romance

Out of 10 men I know, I think only half a man (yes half…) would be romantic. Perhaps it is the culture we are in. We Asian are unlike Westerners who knows how to show a lady a good time. How to be romantic? once my boyfriend asked. My boyfriend is someone who is NOT romantic at all. He is also very forgetful, so you won’t expect any birthday/anniversary surprises from him. After knowing him for long, I began to learn to accept who he is and be less grumpy when he doesn’t take me out for a movie or nice candle light dinner.

If you’re looking forward to a date or anniversary with your wife/girlfriend, do shower them with flower or a little gift and a nice dinner. Once away have a get away with your partner, set the mood right. Romance IS the fuel for intimacy.

I can tell you that I would be dragging my guy to bed to show him a good night if he were to surprise me with good gift hahahahahahahahaha

 

7/ Be Adventurous

There is nothing sexier to see a man enjoying himself. Being adventurous and not afraid to try something new can be such a turn on. I remember once I was really attracted to this guy. Although he is from UK and not familiar with our Asian culture (especially from where I am from, Malaysia, a country filled with multi-race and culture), I just couldn’t take my eyes of him, when I saw him able to accept the culture and enjoy himself with all the food. I had so much fun with him, till I have fallen for him.

 

8/ Grooming

Now, this grooming is not just the outer beauty but also applies to.. well your naked body.. Starts from the basic by brushing teeth (important guys! No women or men like to kiss someone with bad breath…). Some girls like hairy man, I prefer mine not so. So waxing your back and chest would be something nice. Ladies could once awhile go sexy with bikini wax. Being well groomed inside out brings extra confidence and attractiveness to oneself.

 

9/ You Are What You Wear

Even I have problem with this. I am never the usual ladylike person. I grew up in tees & jeans. A tom-boy I was. So can’t blame people to look/judge you by the way you dress. If you have great booty, get a pair of nice sexy n fitting jeans to show it off (as long they don’t cut your blood circulation), put on a nice tee to show off your toned biceps. Ladies, is nice to slip into something comfy even just a skirt and baby tee. But, who cares… If you’re hot, you’re HOT, regardless what you wear.

 

10/ Have Fun

Don’t be afraid to have fun! I like how they interpret this. Romance is not a chore. Indeed, it is not. It can’t be planned or scheduled like some doctor’s appointment. Neither can it be fully theorized in a book. It’s the chemistry between the two that heat up that spark. By hitting all the points mentioned above, bet that spark will change your life and probably create a flame that would probably melt an iced mountain :P

 

 

The above are summarized by me and words partially taken from FACES June issue (#91) 2008.

 

Woke up today not knowing what I suppose to be doing, body feeling extremely exhausted, probably due to the fact I haven't been getting much rest for the past two weeks and was shooting on yesterday and the day before. Yesterday night spent a night at jamming studio with the KIRI boys, I almost fallen asleep. My poor bf had to keep up with my mood swings, especially at one time I was pissed with them smoking at the stairway which is hot and no air ventilation, was choking me so I just walked off. That strike my guy that I was really not happy with him smoking.

Have nothing much to do today except trying to catch as much rest as I could for the day and chill out, so I came online to alivenotdead. Reading all my blogs again and some other members. Feeling bit bad about myself. I have not spend much time here as I used to anymore. I turned on my laptop and went and check out my AnD folder, I have at least 10 unfinished written blogs. All halfway, about the BSB concert I attended, about a few events I attended, about a few news article I read and wanted to voice out my POV, etc etc............

I really need to get myself organised!! My life is just in total mess.. I have 24hours a day and it seemed I could never get anything that I wanted to be done. And there few days ago, I was thinking of taking up a part time job, just to earn some extra income (as my bank account is drying up fast). I do love the part time job that's being offered to me. It is something that  I wanted since my college time, what I planned to do (not that what I am doing right now is not what I like).... Although I have forgotten most of what I have learn about the field, but I hope to gain all knowledge that I have learn during my college and put it back in practice. To juggle between my fulltime (which is really taking a lot of my time) and part time is going to be one issue and another major issue I am facing is my fulltime contract is quite strict and I do not want to risk anything on that...... Guess.. I have to go back to planning again and see how is this going to work out with my complete messed up schedule.......

I am also hoping I could do at least a blog to three blogs a week to keep my alivenotdead ALIVE!

Finally Am back!!!

After a rush off work, I have left my office on last Wednesday with my colleagues to our long awaits holiday! Our company (my first) trip to Phuket, Thailand.

Unfortunately, my camera went 'under the sea' on the second day :*( .... *SAD*... my new camera, I havent able to play with it long enough.. Now its on its way to the factory for repair.. i accidentally dropped it in split seconds but it manage to scope some sands and water into the lens (DARN!). Now my problem with it is, the lens doesnt close anymore.. Might have some sand caught inside... Hope nothing major (CROSSING ALL MY FINGERS!!!!!!)

I manage to capture some pictures on the 1st day and a few shots before the dis-rupture of my camera. Took some with my camera phone but the quality sucks max. I used my colleagues' camera to take some.

Alright, back to the trip. It's quite a nice hotel that we stayed in. It is called the Millennium Hotel at Patong Beach. Although, I wished we were actually facing the beach rather than some hills and buildings. The place was actually quite alright and easy accessible. Our hotel is attached to a shopping mall. So, its good as we can get entertainment and food just a walk down the road.

Bangla Road (yeah, that's what it is called) is just across from our hotel, where you get the night scenes of Patong Beach. Bars filled with chics and tourist, and nice seafood restaurants along that road. However, I find that Pattaya is more happening compared to Phuket. The night scenes in Pattaya is more exciting and more fun. Also, to shop at Phuket is more expensive if compare to Bangkok (even more expensive that Pattaya!!). If you try to bargain with the stall keepers, sometimes they are quite arrogant! But, the shopping mall's goods are more decent pricing. Their branded goods are slightly more cheaper compare to Malaysia (eg: Adidas, Nike, Dockers etc). I noticed as well there are more Indians (maybe that's why it is known as Bangla Road) than Thai around our surrounding.

During my 4days 3nights stay in Phuket, other than minor shopping that I did, I went Island hopping on my 2nd day stayed. Went to 'Pi Pi Island' where Leonardo Di Caprio shot 'Titanic'.
There are many islands that we went, sorry though.. I have lost count and can't even remember their names as I was too busy puking!!!!!! I really got motion sickness. The moment I was on the car to the jetty, I already started puking. Upon reaching the jetty, I went visited their toilet for my second round. Going on the speed boat (mind you, its an hour journey to the 1st Island on Speedboat!! Its really far!) i had another round. Reaching the 1st island (which was really beautiful and breath taking) i went to their loo and did my 3rd round. I wished the time spend hugging the toilet bowl, could have been spent to walk around the beautiful island and quick deep into the sea. went back on to the boat for the next island I had my another round and it went on and on and on till we were back to the jetty. In the end, I counted I puked about 7 times, in just that half a day.. I went really green and couldn't had anything in me. Despite, having to take two pills of anti sea-sick pills but seems like it didn't worked for me this time, except it started to kick in after the whole journey and got me really sleepy on the way back to the hotel.

What was the most fun would probably be our company dinner. We had lots of fun and get to see our bosses without their 'mask' on and were quite chilling with us hehehehehe

Have quite a few pictures but couldn't post some as hahahaha the owner or subject/people in the pictures doesn't want them to be publish hahahahahaha
we got really 'notti' after a few drinks LOL

Enjoy the pictures! They are in my photo album!

I have in my facebook album:
Phuket Trip Part 1
Phuket Trip Part 2
 

Yay!! Finally I have saved up enough for a new camera!
There's another camera which I kinna like too especially its manual function (which is similiar to my previous camera, that could take better pictures) and its 18x optical zoom! though its only 7.0 megapixel but addable lens which work fine, which only difference of RM 100.. compare to mine.. After giving some thoughts I decided to take mine, because its more compact and easier to carry around compare to the other one which has its own carry case but quite bulky..Ok, its nothing fancy, although I wish I could get a more professional camera, to think again I need something which is compact, easy to carry around and good to take decent pictures. So I have decided to land myself with the new Panasonic Lumix DTZ-15. With 9.1 Megapixels and 10x optical zoom.. should be enough for me to take pictures all I want!

Anyway, I have leave my camera charging now, should able to start snapping pics tomorrow hahahaha

I am off to Phuket next week for company trip. I haven't been there before. However, friends have shown me pictures of them during trips there. It looks gorgeous and great holiday paradise. Am really looking forward to be at the Island (not too keen though with my colleagues hahahaha I just don wan to think of work!!!)

When I am back hope to post some pictures up with my new camera !!!

Gosh! It has been awhile since I last online here!!!
Didn't mean to, but it's just so hard to keep up with the net, especially late the internet in my office area is just horrible!! At days I couldn't even load a page!

Too much to update here in just one blog hahaha
Work been really busy for me.. (as usual).. but I just had a good birthday :) though work was in the way! however I manage to steal some time to get a quick dinner with my boyfriend and a few close friends whom I have not met in a year already! Just a simple girlie dinner (with a guy hahahaha). There were so much to catch up! One dinner isn't enough for the girls to chitty chat chat away!

For the past two months was hectic work schedule for me. I just finished a shoot on Wednesday. I must say one of the most tiring shoot ever I had. Just less than 24 hours away from the shoot, I don't even had a venue neither wardrobe for my talents!
Some blame the lack of preparation and planning (yes, there go again blame on the producer - me) . Seriously this job was not easy to go through. I was completely stress out, and people around noticed it. While trying to keep the shoot on time, my team and I had to source out for venue, wardrobe and others more.. With having last minute arguement with my wardrobe master and he 'Fired' me (Geez!!!), I am glad my team got everything done. Not sleeping for three days, shooting from 6am - 2am, I felt it is all worth it :)

That's how's life are :D

Hey for all Malaysian, please not forget to catch few shows coming up in town!:-
1. Kam...In Your Face!
Catch Joanne Kam, Ash Nair, Ina Frabregas, Douglas Lim and many many great performer in this fun exciting cabaret @ BSC

2. 9th May , The Curve Damansara from 12noon onwards is Rock Up! 2008, charity event for Agathian Shelter Home. Catch Harith Iskandar, Alvin Wong, KIRI, Frequency Cannon and many more bands and artistes for this good cause!

3. 14th May, Laundry Bar, The Curve, for Motorola new phone launch with KIRI, Estranged and many more bands!!!

Right.. time for bed LOL I have presentation in the morning and off for a good body massage!