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   Marie Jost

  Wednesday, Nov 18, 2009 7:52PM [Report]

  Kenji,
  
  I think with friends, sometimes the most loving thing you can do is give them space, at least for a time.  But always be willing to welcome them back into the fold of your special friends with open arms, no questions asked.  There is also nothing wrong, when you think enough time has passed, to approach them in a very gentle and non-demanding manner and see if they are now ready to be closer to you.  Sometimes life deals some really tough cards and for some people, retreating, not having to explain oneself and/or re-live the pain and suffering with close friends is what they need.  I know, I've been there.  But a real friend is there for them when they come back, no questions asked, with arms and heart open.  The Christian story of the Prodigal Son is a perfect example of living one's love for another in the moment, free of one's own feelings of past hurt and betrayal.  Sometimes, too, it is easier to offer a friend this unconditional love, compared to a family member or lover.  Don't stop caring, but be patient and gently persistent.  If there is a true bond between you and another person, there is always hope that you will reconnect.  Let us hope that it will not be 20 or 30 years, as it has been with some high school friends who found me on FB. :-)
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   Grace Huang

  Monday, Nov 16, 2009 11:35PM [Report]

  Hey~!
  Thanks for spotting and letting me know about the LukFook tvc in SanFran~! Am happy to hear my face is reaching shores that far : )
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  MissScarlett

  Monday, Nov 9, 2009 10:18PM [Report]

  I hear ya. Some people are so incredibly hard to read or figure out. At that point what can you do? Let it go? Ask them what's up? I agree with Marie (below)--there's that distinct possibility that 1) person was only a "friend" becuz of something they could get from you or  2) there's something going on in their life that's messing with their mojo. There's also a 3rd possibility--you did "something" and they'd rather not engage and deal with it. The worst part about option 3 is that "something" usually turns out to be a HUGE misunderstanding. How many times have you seen THAT happen?
  
  Yeah, that trying to repair thing is hard--even when you DO know what's broken! I guess the first question to answer is "Is it worth fixing?" I've had relationships, when I stood back and took a good, honest look, I realized I was spending an awful lot of energy laboring to maintain something that wasn't worth it. But if the answer is yes, it's worth fixing? What to do next is the hard part. The direct approach? Go ask the person where thing went wrong. That's not possible? After doing a lot of soul searching--I've learned to be brutally honest with myself. It's painful, but rewarding when I solve some mystery about what motivates me personally--approach other people who might know. That friendship i had to work so hard to repair? I went to our mutual friends, humbly, and ask them to be brutally honest with me. I didn't ask them to take sides or betray a confidence, I just told them I wanted to make things right and to tell me their thoughts. Someone always knows. And, like Marie said, some people just need some space sometimes...
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   Marie Jost

  Monday, Nov 9, 2009 8:05PM [Report]

  If some people you know are being friendly one day and suddenly, with no warning, distant the next, there may be one of 2 things going on, and neither one of them really have anything to do with you.
  
  1. They were trying to "use" you for something, and you weren't playing ball.  So, when they figured out that they couldn't use you for their own ends, they lost interest.  I think we are all well rid of such friends, even though it does hurt to know we were being used for ulterior motives.  Better to find out sooner, rather than later.  And good riddance to such "friends".  
  
  2. There is some conflict or problem going on in their personal lives, psyche, a personality disorder, whatever, and it has absolutely nothing to do with you.  If they want space, you have to let them have it.  If they are real friends, they will be back when they get back on an even keel, or figure out some things.  It happens, and again, it isn't any reflection on you and the friendship.
  
  If it is a friend you have had for a while and neither 1 nor 2 seem to apply, if you have other means to contact them, I would and see what might be going on.  Sometimes people are overwhelmed by life, are ashamed of something that has happened (like losing a job, having their partner break up with them, etc.) and need to withdraw for a while.  If they don't feel comfortable coming to you for support (and a lot of people just close up when bad things happen to them), then you must respect their need for space, even though you really do want to help and be a support.  
  
  If you are sure they are not using you, just give your friends space and be really glad to see them again when they reappear.
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  Jaine

  Monday, Nov 9, 2009 4:12PM [Report]

  I guess I just moved a lot as a kid and learnt that friends come and go
  
  actually I have moved back to the town I went to secondary school in and am really enjoyed building on old friendships
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  Jaine

  Friday, Oct 23, 2009 4:36PM [Report]

  fair enough, I'm not really a rocky fan either.  
  Still I would probably attempt it just coz I'm a dork (and I would huff and puff and look like even more of a dork)  ah well, can't be helped.
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   Daniel Chan

  Wednesday, Oct 21, 2009 2:28PM [Report]

  Hey Kenji, it really depends on how you want to make your film, if you wanna just shoot it on HD with friends and family, then, writing to a budget is the way, but if you are writing something you feel is special and deserves money to make, then you should go all out with it... In HK with Chinese scripts I write in word with a writing pad as with most other people, so that's why chinese scripts have no real format. I am on the fence about character development, sometimes its good to have the character all sorted out before you write, but other times, you risk putting yourself in restrictions and question yourself saying, hey this character would never say or do something like that... so I am 50:50 on that... good luck with your script man, I am sure it will find it's way to the right producers.
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  peachey

  Friday, Sep 11, 2009 10:22PM [Report]

  Shinjuku for $5us in hk. I have noticed the bootleg shops in SF. They usually don't have Eng subtitles so I have to skip them. heehee. Well, they're also DVD-9 and I don't have an intl player at the moment (it broke).
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  peachey

  Sunday, Sep 6, 2009 12:32AM [Report]

  I guess I could rent some of the Chinese films, however I don't belong to any Asian rental membership. Shinjuku Incident was an impulse buy at $5. I gave a list for hubby to shop for while he was in HK and a couple of the shops didn't have what I wanted (mostly newer J and K films on my list). Rather than have him come back with a too-small bundle, I agreed to SI on vcd.
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   Marie Jost

  Saturday, Sep 5, 2009 11:24PM [Report]

  What am I looking for, hum, the last thing I tried to get, and couldn't, was Tsui Hark's "Blade".  "Portland Street Blues" and "City of Sadness" are others. I know there are more, but I don't have my handy-dandy list at hand.
  
  Also, in terms of CDs, I'm looking for anything by Anthony Wong Yiu Ming.  Most of his work is out of print and just doesn't seem to be available in any form.  The list of what I have is far shorter than the list of what I don't.  I am trying to get everything he recorded as a soloist (the Tat Ming Pair albums have been re-released recently and I have those, now).
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   Mark Ryan

  Sunday, Aug 30, 2009 2:57PM [Report]

  Love the wood "creations"!
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  peachey

  Saturday, Aug 22, 2009 12:58PM [Report]

  Another thing about eating at restaurants....when nobody says 'thank you.' I expect someone to smile _and_ thank me for letting them feed me at their establishment. It doesn't take too much time or energy. It's the little things that make people feel good or satisfied with plopping down $ at their particular eatery. Gah!
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   MADEinHK

  Wednesday, Aug 19, 2009 12:17PM [Report]

  thats true......haha like and TVC trying to sell marker pen or blackberry
  
  but i think the whole act without any lines are kind of interesting.....
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   Marie Jost

  Wednesday, Aug 12, 2009 7:54AM [Report]

  I couldn't agree with you more.  At parties, I always end up in the kitchen having a heart-to-heart with one person for most of the night.  I figure, when I find someone that is interesting and fun to talk to, why not take advantage of that opportunity.  How many such opportunities are there, really?  Not so many.  I actually hate parties where everyone is cutting up and being stupid and drunk and noisy and the music is so loud no one can talk and it is so dark you can't see anyone's face.  I guess that is what drugs and alcohol are for--to put you into a stupor so you think you're actually having fun at a party like that.:-)
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   JuJu Chan

  Friday, Aug 7, 2009 1:21AM [Report]

  Hi Kenji, Just got your message. When and where is your casting? I am leaving SF back to HK this weekend. But I can try to pass on your message to some friends. Sorry for the late reply.
  
  JuJu
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  enigma306

  Thursday, Aug 6, 2009 3:51PM [Report]

  Wow. That's really bad.  It reminds me of those snobby places where people pay to be treated somewhat rudely.  I mistakenly ventured into such a place in LA once.   By the time I finished in that place (HUMONGOUS MOUTH) all I wanted was pizza.  
  
  I'll look up "all around us".  I'm glad you mentioned Sonata.  I totally had forgotten I wanted to see that.
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  enigma306

  Wednesday, Aug 5, 2009 2:37PM [Report]

  I finally saw Departures.  It was very good.  I really liked it.  Thanks for recommending it.
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  asixirivong

  Wednesday, Aug 5, 2009 11:50AM [Report]

  Hi Kenji and you are welcome...:) nice to talk with
  Have nice time :):)
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  tinlunlau

  Wednesday, Aug 5, 2009 5:25AM [Report]

  i'd talk to the manager.
  it's not mandatory to pay tip.
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  asixirivong

  Tuesday, Aug 4, 2009 12:13PM [Report]

  Hi Kenji nice to meet you on alivenotdead :)
  
  Like your words of talking :) and thanks for see message :) :)
  
  With all the best
  Ann

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