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forgiveness
Sunday, May 6, 2012 4:26AM / Standard Entry
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Being friends or lovers first?
Saturday, Apr 14, 2012 1:48PM / Standard Entry
There are many classic examples of couples being complete strangers after they ended the relationship. Some of them actually choose to be together having to skip the “friendship phase” of the relationship. I can’t help but to wonder… should a couple be friends or lovers first?
I’ve heard a saying that friendship helps to build the foundation of a relationship. We humans need time to build up the trust for each other so I do see some truth in this saying but really, how many of us will bother to be friends with the one that we like before proceeding straight to committing into a relationship? Even I myself have to admit that, I used to be in relationships with people without spending time in the “friendship phase”. I thought that I can get to know the person better after we are together as a couple. In the end, the relationship doesn’t last as we have to break up due to incompatible personalities. (laugh) Nowadays I would prefer to know a person better and being good friends with that person before deciding whether to commit into a relationship. Though much at times I have to say, it is not easy to stick to being only friends with the person you like. After all, we may have enough friends and certainly being merely friends with that special someone is not on our agenda.
Somehow it is different when knowing a person as a lover and as a friend. We tend to portray different side of us to our friends and our lover. There is no way we are gonna let our special someone know that there is this “dark” side of us. But somehow sooner or later, our partner will definitely get in touch with that “dark” side and that is when he/she hits reality. Some of them choose to accept that side of us but most of them like to change that side of us to become the person that they wanted us to be. Well, there is a minority of them who will succeed in changing their partner. However most of us are more likely to remain the same. Maybe some of us will try to “conceal” that side of us and pretend to have changed in order to please our partner. But having to pretend or act all the time is tiring so many people will tend to stop the act after a while and our partner just have learn to accept it.
Though I have not had much experiences in love and relationship but I reckon the best way to sustaining a long term relationship is to simply accept your partner and not try to change them. Also, stop pretending and be who you are when you’re with your partner if not, most likely you will disappoint them in the future or you have to maintain the act for the rest of your life. So my future partner will definitely to get see the real me and we will have to go through that friendship phase first.
I will definitely accept the person if I am truly in love with the person. So hopefully the special someone knows that they don’t have to put on an act in order to impress me.
Love & Hope
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瞭解
Sunday, Apr 8, 2012 7:09AM / Standard Entry
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Busy busy
Monday, Jan 23, 2012 2:50AM / Standard Entry
I’ve been so busy lately that I have no time to update this blog!
Sorry, I should stop finding excuses for myself and resume my blogging…Recently I’ve been absent from my friends’ gatherings.
I feel guilty about having to constantly reject friends’ invitation.
But I’m sure they will be understanding enough to excuse me for being MIA for this period.Gonna enjoy this precious lunar new year vacation.
Then it’s back to my hectic lifestyle again.When I’m done with my stuff, I’ll be back in action once again.
Hopefully my friends still remember me.Wish everyone a happy lunar new year.
I’ll see everyone soon!
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Twenty-five
Tuesday, Jan 10, 2012 12:11AM / Standard Entry
Woo hoo I’m one year older. Strangely I don’t feel sad or happy about it. I’m feeling quite neutral about getting older. (laugh) This year I decided to have no celebrations for my birthday, just a simple dinner with my family. Mum bought me a birthday cake though and I love it!
My favorite Spongebob Squarepants!I was in the mood to cook so I cooked wonton soup for dinner.
I’ve prepared a pot of chicken stock…
Spent some time wrapping the wontons…
Cooked the wontons in the chicken broth
Wah la… here’s my version of wonton soup!Actually I didn’t cooked all the wonton as my family were full after gorging my birthday cake. Oops, perhaps I should just get a small cake for myself next year.
As part of my birthday tradition, I shall share the birthday messages from my loved ones!
Happy Birthday CS!!! =D
- BrendanHappy birthday!!!!!!! See u real soon for ur bday celebration with bk!!!! ^^
- RainabelleHappy birthday…all the best..n c u soon…
- XFhappy birthday ching!
- Ah Benhappy birthday kor kor Anthony! Catch up during CNY!
- Krystalhappy happy birthday!:)
- KrystinHappy bday dude
- Bellhappy bday!! Wishing you good health and a good career ahead ! See u soon!
- MelHappy B’dae!!!
- JerEnjoy your awesome birthday ahead Gori! Chanting *Thai food* :O
- Ah KitHi hi, happy birthday to you!
- FionaAnthony, happy happy birthday♪♪♪Wishing ur eternal happiness from Japan.
- ChisaoHappy Birthday 4404!!!
- Chaoyuhappy birthday 川山童鞋！！！
- Qian Erhappy b’day bro…wish u luck these years ahead…GBU…
- ErikLim Chuan Shan! Many happy returns of the day, mon ami! How is work coming along? Hope 2012 will be a great year for you.
- Vigneshhey,Happy Bday,All the best!!!:)
- WeniHappy Birthday Chuan Shan!
- Kok JoonA big thank you to everyone! I will continue to work hard to be a better person and give more to the society.
Love & Hope
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