think before you speak!!! 

 

I can’t understand why some people loves to talk and talk and talk without even thinking first. Words are very important coz every time we say something, we have the ability to inspire, encourage or worst to destroy! Our words are a powerful force, but with that comes responsibility. Just as words can motivate, they can also hurt…okay so here’s the thing: we can’t say anything flowery and crappy just to please other people right? Like you say! “Oh, you look beautiful in your dress.”  “You look gorgeous and blooming today.” Well in fact behind the persons back, you say “ yikes! She looks odd and desperate trying to fit in with the outfit.” So you end up as a liar! Another example is when you blurt out funny comments about other people without knowing that it can make them feel insecure and alienated. I myself have experienced being insulted, belittled, got negative words and comments that made me feel insecure and made my self-esteem go down at the lowest point. I became discontented and disillusioned. I seethed anger and bitterness towards all the people who were in an instant mocking me, cursing me, telling lies about me and telling me that I am a nobody. One day I talked to myself and surprisingly I found out that I was doing it to other people too…telling them they’re this and they’re that. I was for heaven sake, unaware! I myself needed to change inwardly. I needed to change the motives of my actions, the way I think about myself and the way I think about other people. I needed to replace my anger with tolerance and understanding and I needed to change my humanistic means of change to faith and godliness in my ways.

 

So please…Think before you speak and know whether your words could be constructive or destructive. Stop saying negative things to yourself and to other people coz you wont know of how it would impact their lives. For you, it may not be true and you simply say that “oh that was just a big joke” or maybe you say, “I was just really pissed that’s why i said all those things”. What an excuse! Bratatatata… C’mon people! Let’s change that attitude, we all can do it if we religiously watch the words that are coming out of our mouth. Let’s speak blessing and let’s stop cursing! Use your mouth to uplift the spirits of others rather than to bring them down.

If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all. 

earlier, I was scanning pictures downstairs, old and new ones and it brought back a lot of memories! I saw the way i was before and the way i am now. not the fact that i was fat way back haha but i mean changes on the inside. And yes, i've come a long way! I was pampered growing up, a brat if that’s what you call that, i always get what i want,do what i want to do, go wherever i wana go. if you go deeper on the inside, you'll see a lot of insecurities, discontentment, bitterness. I always strive hard to be better in everything just to please people! God saw that evil side of me and thats why He needed to break me. People who knew me before can testify of how God is in the business of changing people and of how he has really changed me.

 

mostly women today battle with insecurities! we do everything to look good. we buy fancy dress and fancy shoes! we try to wear a mask,  pretending to be somebody else's we are not. I've been there and it ain't healthy! i want you to know that you are BEAUTIFUL JUST AS YOU ARE! you dont have to wear a kilo of make up to look good everyday. I learned in the process that if you are beautiful on the inside, it will naturally come out on the outside. you see, my heart was rotten with too much insecurities before, thats why everytime i look at myself in the mirror, i see a lot of imperfections because i always compare myself with other people. i wana luk like her, i wana have that kinda hair, i wana have this and that...blah blah blah!! and it was sucking my joy out! seriously!

 

im still a work in progress, for the record. i still have a lot in my character that needs change! but i dfnitely am over with insecurities. i am writing this blog to help you get over it too! but you have to boldly step out in faith and believe that YOU ARE FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE(Psalm 139). every freckle in your face is designed to be there. your legs, your thighs, your hips, your nose, your eyes! you have to love what you see because God made you that way.

 

put aside all that negativity inside. let us embrace God's unconditional love everyday and it will help us love unconditionally too! never ever think that you are less of a person, refuse to listen to that lie ... again, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL JUST AS YOU ARE ...