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\'We all make different choices and need different things and I think eventually we learn to define happiness for ourselves on our own terms in spite of the pain that people have caused us\'

2009-11-17 11:42 / 会员可以看

Nothing irks me more than OPPORTUNISTS - people who speak and associate with you to climb up the so called social ladder. Heck people carry it out continuously on a daily basis in business but we have implemented a classier name to it calling it "networking".

Business networking is the process of establishing a mutually beneficial relationship with other business people and potential clients and/or customers. - taken from about.com

Can the term 'its just business' be applied to this? So it seems. What if someone uses you to reach their own personal gains but it is to further their careers. Is that 'just business?' Not according to the definition. Business networking is a 'mutually beneficial relationship' implying that both parties are to benefit. Then again in a perfect world all would be fair and just and be filled with equal opportunities.

Assuming that it is socially acceptable to pretend to get along and suck up to someone just to further your career because at the end of the day it is a world run on economics and essentially survival of the fittest (fyi I am not saying I agree with this view), lets take a look at the personal view.

I am of the mindset that if you talk to someone that you should genuinly want to because of who they are as a person. Don't just kiss ass to get somewhere. What is the point? You may think you might be happy in the short run but all your issues and problems are going to remain and you know what they say...its lonely at the top.

I think one of the cruelest moments one can experience is discovering that someone you depended on doesnt care to know you anymore because of your position in society. Why do we live in such a fake world where money and power is the root of all evil? How does one trust in a world full of mistrust? I feel like we need to carry around a lie detector in order to question new associates in order to determine if they are trust worthy or have good intentions towards us.

How can one be sure that the friends you have are not secretly waiting for you to fail because it means they are more successful than you?

Ok I totally went off on a tangent. No, I am not someone who has recently been burned or backstabbed by a best friend but these are thoughts that have rested in my mind for a while now. I realised I have lived in a bubble my whole life sheltered from the cruelty that the world has to offer. Im not a pessimist, I do know that there are beautiful things in the world that offset the ugly but it upsets me to know that there are thorns among the roses. Thats the balance of life though right?

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A Dollar Value?

2009-05-21 0:21 / 会员可以看

A source for the latest HK happenings (aside from your resident AnD) are local HK magazines, such as HK mag, BC, Beats, The list. Every week (or forthnightly) they each offer something different, showcasing a different perspective on similar topics or just opening my eyes to the HK scene. What i love reading first and foremost are the editors notes. If you are one of those people who just skip it to get to the main section...DONT. No, its not an order but you are definitely missing out. Editor's notes are often witty, opinionated, candid and give you something to think about. I spent the evening pouring over these magazines. Due to my erratic schedule I faltered in my reading, but with a clear evening ahead of me I picked up a BC magazine that I had lying around. Turned out the magazine was from the Valentines issue...yes yes..it was from that long ago. I picked it up, settled down with it and read the editors note. Interestingly it stated:

'Admittedly, it seems an everyday fact in HK that love has a dollar value'

HK is reknowned for being a financial capital. I've heard complaints that Hong Kong people are only concerned with one thing: making money. It is irrelvant what field they enter as long as there is money to be made. Could it be a fact that this mindset has stretched into the one aspect of life that I hold pure and with inviolable sanctity? That of love? Ok...maybe that is exaggerating to extremes but the jist holds true. IS a dollar value placed on love in HK? If one takes notice of the the window ads, the restaurant promotions, the packages all spread out just before valentines day then one could conclude yes. But that is just one day in the year..what about the other 364 days? I'm going to need feedback on this fact but how does one measure the love of their gf/bf? If it is how much money/gifts their significant other showers on them then there is a serious problem in our midst. Not only that but that is just so damn SAD. Love is not something to be taken lightly. Love shouldn't be measured by the material possessions one bestows on another or that one receives. Can you imagine.. 'my boyfriend gave me 10 teddybears. Your's only gave you 2..my bf loves me more than yours loves you.' SERIOUSLY!?? Even if you up the stakes and change the teddy bears to cars. Firstly...ok your boyfriend is loaded, props to you..but wth are you going to do with so many cars anyway. Love having a dollar value = materialistic relationship . It does in my eyes anyway and hey if thats what floats your boat then by all means enjoy. I don't think a relationship based on that could ever be happy one though. Intially maybe, but in the long run I see a lifetime of lonliness and a whole lot of junk accumulated. What do i know though?

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Quote of the Day from Gandhi

2009-05-17 16:08 / 会员可以看

Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behaviors. Keep your behaviors positive because your behaviors become your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.

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Jeanne Hartman

2009-05-07 1:56 / 会员可以看

I had the pleasure of meeting acting coach extrodinaire, Jeanne Hartman tonight at Hotel Panorama. Ms. Hartman is a wonderful speaker and I wish that I was able to join her upcoming class, which you can find out about here:

http://www.alivenotdead.com/jasontobin/Jeanne-Hartman-Acting-Workshop-event-543220.html

Ms. Hartman spoke to us about how important it is to hone one's acting skills. Examples provided to us were Kobe Bryant and Shaquille O'neal. Both amazing basketball players who practice every single day. Yeah, they are phenomenal....so why do they need to practice?! They need to practice to ensure that they stay on top of their game and to constantly improve; to be the best that they can be. Simarly, to be a GREAT actor, one needs to practice and learn skills and techniques.

I also learnt valuable information about audtions. Ms. Hartman explained to us that an audition is your ONE shot to impress everyone. You may not get the role that time, but make a lasting impression so that if a suitable role comes up in the future, you could be the first person that pops up in the casting directors mind!

I would DEFINITELY DEFINITELY DEFINITELY recommend taking Jeanne Hartman's class. Even if acting is not your forte, acting workshops are wonderful for boosting one's self confidence and it also encourages people with their fear of public speaking.

Not many people know this, (actually who am i kidding, anyone who talks to me knows this!) but I have a stuttering problem. It developed with i was 7 years old...well before that, but that was when I was diagnosed with an actual stuttering problem and was sent to seek help. It has gotten better but every so often it gets worse. When is that? It gets worse when I am ill. Am actually not entirely sure why that is..but its true! It also gets worse when I am nervous. I am also an extremely fast talker by nature. So can you imagine what happens when I'm nervous? I sound like a bullet train whose engine is in trouble and keeps stalling! its embarassing to say the least!

Through highschool I took Drama, because I loved stepping into the role of someone else, portraying a character so unlike myself and having my audience completely believe that I was the character I played. It was my little safe haven. When I was acting, I wouldn't stutter. That's another reason I wanted to take the workshop. I believe that I can take lessons learned and apply it to everyday life.

Please DONT disregard the workshop as just for actors because its not. You can get so much from it if you just open yourself up to the idea. So give it a try...what do you lose?

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Random Firings

2009-04-15 0:26 / 会员可以看

I want to do something big, something different with my life. i dont want life to pass me and just be another blimp on the map. I want to look back and feel that I have made a difference. i want to feel the mark I have made and be proud that I was there at that time and I contributed to the succeess of that...whatever that is.

You never know where life is going to take you. So many dreams, so many aspirations but nothing is in your hands. Or is everything in your hands and it is for you to actualise it? Fate......sit tight and it will happen or get up and make it happen...which one is it?

I went to see an old teacher of mine the other day and when he found out that I was reluctant on the idea of pursuing law he pumped his fists in the air and shouted 'YES'. I burst out laughing, cause who would have thought that he would have had such a strong reaction to my mindset? His answer to my inquisitive look: 'you have too much humanity to be a lawyer'. I wonder if thats true. Do lawyers give up their humanity to succeed? Forget succeeding...just practicing lawyers...are they lacking in humanity? I constantly think about criminal law and i realise that I could never persue that area of law. Letting a guilty man go free, or helping to convict an innocent man. Brr..sends chills up my spine. Nah... the criminal field definitely aint for me. Ok commercial law...hugely popular in HK...devoid of all the moral implications. or is it? Commercial transactions have their own issues and when there is hanky panky involved....and you are in charge of bankrupting another person or company or protecting the deceitful one. Aiyesh, i think of the families and the children and again i don't know if i could do it. Sure its not ALWAYS like that ....my world isnt a television show but when it comes around to it and something like this happens as it does time and again...could i handle it?

Was my teacher right? Am I too full of humanity to practice law? Possibly...

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