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a mourning...

my aunt passed away today at 2pm...she's my mum's 2nd eldest sister...

i think i was the last relative to see her alive last night when i brought dinner for her in the hospital...

i wasn't very fond of her but she's still my aunt...she's those kind of person who'd be very fussy about everything and complain about anything that is ok for other people but not fit in her eyes...she noses a lot too, and can be very sarcastic...but then again...i'm used to it already...she's a great cook tho...

she had asthma, and she was diagnosed with breast cancer, had her treatment in China before...but it was already pretty critical by the time she went there...

she wanted to be admitted to the palliative care bcuz my youngest aunty who she lives with is going outstation...they are single and have no children, so nobody can take care of her...initially my mum was supposed to go to her house and take care of her, but then again my mum doesn't drive, so if there's anything, that can be quite a chaos bcuz their house is pretty far from town...plus, my mum just had her gall bladder surgery mid April and is slowly healing...i wouldn't want her to put on more burden, what more her liver is not in real good condition either...

when i took food to my aunt yesterday, she said she might not make it through the night because her lungs are weak, and if her lungs collapses, she'll be gone... she can hardly move, she said...

how was i supposed to react to her words?! i just prepared her food before her, wash her spoon, and arrange all the food nicely so that she can reach them easily, then i left the hospital...with a very heavy feeling after hearing her words, partly annoyed, partly bcuz she's someone close...

actually i just came back from the funeral parlour...took dinner for my mum and my youngest aunt...my cousins were there, my other aunt (mum's younger sister) was there, and some family friends...the hall was nicely set, maybe will take a pic or 2 tomorrow if it's permitted...

actually got a call from my mum after gym during lunch time today, and expected something bad...then my phone batt gone dead...by the time i got to office and called home, my mum left for the hospital and my uncle (my mum's eldest brother) picked up the phone and told me the news...

at least she's free from the suffering, medication and treatment...rest in peace Aunty Nancy...

the hard part comes, how to inform my eldest aunty who's in US caring for my cousin who gave birth to her 2nd daughter in March...

funeral's on Thursday...it will be a cremation as she wished for, and her ashes thrown to the sea...tomorrow i'll still be going to work, should be taking a half day leave on Thursday morning to attend the funeral service... tomorrow, orbituary on the papers...my mum and my aunty's gonna be super busy...

gotta say, the funeral parlour has upgraded a lot~ they even have a water dispenser for every hall...3in1 coffee is also complimentary...and they even prepared the little red packets for visitors...well, of course, it's all in a package and we have to pay for it...at least, it's better than the time when my dad passed away...but that was almost 9 years ago...

about 12 years ago 0 likes  19 comments  0 shares
Rottendoubt a4 patrick
sorry for your loss..... =(
about 12 years ago
Bleupluie 89 sono
surprisingly i was pretty strong...didn't cry...thought i'd almost cry just now, but then again, i'm not sure...maybe the feeling's not here yet...my feelings have somehow become slowmo after my dad passed away...maybe i'll shed a few tears during the ceremony...but i've learn to accept that somethings happened and can't be reversed, and they happen for a reason...too old a thought for my age? I NEED TO BE YOUNG~ darn it!
about 12 years ago
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Sorry for that. God save her.
about 12 years ago
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hope u feel better soon ^_^
about 12 years ago
Bleupluie 89 sono
thanx for the care u guys... life still goes on...i'm still feeling uneasy with the part where she said if her lungs collapse, she'll die...not really a good thing to hear... apart from that, i'm ok... tomorrow's the funeral...taking half day off in the morning...
about 12 years ago
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sorry to hear about this.
about 12 years ago
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she's free from her suffering, keep that in your mind.....
about 12 years ago
Bleupluie 89 sono
it's ok musicnote thanx Angela~ just came back from the funeral...many friends, old family friends came...some even came as far as West Malaysia...my eldest aunty didn't make it back, but she's considered an elderly, so it's ok... currently, her body is being cremated...dunno whether i'm going there again later...aish...
about 12 years ago
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sorry to hear that. my condolence to your aunt. =(
about 12 years ago
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I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I hope that God will give you and your family strength to overcome this difficutl time.
about 12 years ago
Bleupluie 89 sono
hi jwan, whiteberries... it's ok...the clock is ticking, it's anybody's time... as long as we've spend enough time and had good moments with each other... life is a phase, so is death...i've come to term with it...tho it hurts in the beginning, but after a while, we know that life goes on, the sun still rises from the east and sets in the west...we still eat, we still laugh, we still can have a good time...
about 12 years ago
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I just feel better since my Dad's funeral last year. He's not close to me, but I'm still upset for a long time. That's life, people comes and goes.....
about 12 years ago
Bleupluie 89 sono
hi Amy, sorry for ur lost... i lost my dad when i was 15, and that's almost 9 years ago...i'm ok now, but once in a while, i get sad...me and my dad, we're sometimes close, sometimes not so...but the last couple of years before he left us, we got close again, so it was pretty hard for me at that time...but we had good times...
about 12 years ago
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poor girl *hugs* my grandparents passed away when i was young. my grandmother and i were close. i was v sad. =(
about 12 years ago
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My grandpa passed away when I was a little girl....em,just let the luv become a memory. Im sorry for that...do calm down and become better soon.
about 12 years ago
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Dear bleupluie, I am very sorry to hear about your aunt... but from what you've written in your blog, again I see a very strong young woman there... However, if ever you feel weak, ocassionally, just think of everyone (whether they are people around you or even those who are thousands of miles away who have never met you before like me) who cares for you... Alright?! As I have said before, I think this platform is great as it can connect us through this "cyber home" so we are not alone anymore... with love from Wong Wong
about 12 years ago
Bleupluie 89 sono
sorry i've been outstation for 2 days 1 night...will blog about it after i settle my 'tagged mission'... i think it's common that everybody's lost somebody close...although we don't realise it, but people around us are getting old as we grow older...my friend's dad just passed away this morning too, all of a sudden, and i just got to know about it tonight as i got online... it's good that everybody's giving support to each other here, i feel really warm here...thanx for caring u guys...u're the best! and i really thank AnD crew for this!
about 12 years ago
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hope you enjoyed wedding and feeling better. many ppl get married this year.
about 12 years ago
Bleupluie 89 sono
yup...guess it's a balance, some departed, some arriving...it's supposed to be like that, just now it happens near to us and we realise it...
about 12 years ago

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