I AM in love with my close friend, but I know this must not continue. I strongly believe – this is a “one way love”.

< He ain't a close friend but has the potential to be one. I do not want to lose him.>

She has never shown any signs of loving me, so I have no intention of telling her how I feel, as this will end our friendship.

< He had shown signs of interests and I am really into him. I would've taken the risk if not for him already having someone. >

My problem is, I can’t get her out of my mind. I stopped talking to her for a while and kept myself busy but after a few days, I went back to thinking about her again.

< Nothing that I do can get rid of him mentally. He is a permanent fixture in my mine. >

I don’t know how this started. We had been close friends for years, and have enjoyed her company. Then one day, I began to go deeper into this relationship. I began making more effort to become closer to her. Slowly, she became my priority, and I found myself willing to go miles to fulfil her requests.

<It all started without me even realizing until I got serious about wanting him to be a permanent person in my life. I'd do anything just to see him and be with him. >

I dream of us being together after our retirement, taking care of one another.

<It's all but a dream. I dream of all the great things that we would do together and the places that we would visit. >

I know I cannot keep going like this. I foresee deep heartbreak when she meets her life partner, as seeing her with another guy will leave me miserable and hurt. I just want to maintain a platonic relationship with her and not lose this friendship that we have built together for years. Is this possible?

< I've been hurt already after finding out that he is no longer available. It still aches a lot. I would really love to maintain a platonic friendship with him for he felt like a soul mate to me.>

J & J