Well, where do I start. I just found out my husband of 10 years cheated on me.And then tried to lie about it! I have put up with his alcohol abuse, his drug addiction, and now his sleeping around. I am putting in for my divorce. And vow to never get married again. We also have two small children together, which he never helps me with them. In 10 years you would think he would have bought me my own house by now but has not because he spends all our money on boose and drugs. So am I wrong for wanting a divorce?

I think you stayed with him about 9 years too long.

Better do something now while you still have time to build a normal life for yourself and your two kids.

Good luck!

Oh I would but his mom threathened that if I ever left him she would take my kids away.And right now we are living with her.I no longer live in my home town and I dont have my own car. I do admit I am afraid of what will happen but I think I am trapped,because the last time I threatened to leave him he tried to committ suicide. So I feel stuck in a marriage I don't want to be in.

Are there any agencies in the area, like a Victim Outreach? That's is definitely an abusive situation , and there are groups that will help you. They will come and get you and your kids. I don't know where you are, but if you'd like, PM me,and give me some more info, and I'll do the legwork for you. I'd be happy to help.
Sister, this is a sort of emergency, and you need a hand.

Oh hell no.  You do not need to put up with this.  The exact thing happen to me, but I was only married for two and half years.  Burning Bed comes to mind.  Are you allowed any time to go into town with your children or even to take them to school?  If you are allowed to pick them up from school, get your kids and go to the police department and let them know you are in an abusive situation and if you can go back home, they will send you back to your home town.  Let me know how I can help.

         thanks wu .

sorry but I gave a handshake about the subject of translation , and I arrive in speaking about hard problems ,sorry and good courage for people who have difficulties , in this case it's an hard things .

It's okay, Colombe. I knew what you meant.

I called my mom who lives in my home town and explained what happened and they(my parents )are picking me up really soon.I just hate up rooting the kids from a school they really like.I know that its not going to be peacefull around the christmas holidays.And that breaks my heart.This isn't exactly the perfect time to break up a family although its not really a happy one. But my kids do love my mother in law.And they would blame me for everything. I really don't know if I can ever trust another man or not. I dont think so,they'll always be a doubt if they are telling me the truth or not. Maybe things will get better.But I can't really focus on my problems and break down,because I have got to stay strong for my kids sake.

Grad School homework...

Well, I'm glad that your family is able to help you. And there is never really a good time for a family to break up. But think of the good example you are setting for your kids: woman does the right thing, behaves strongly, and is able to remove herself and her children from a bad environment.
And as for the possibility of a future relationship, you know that time and therapy (whether professional or personal) can help you to make better choices. That isn't the concern at the moment. But I do understand: it seems to be one of the first thoughts that run through our heads, as one situation is closing, where will I go from here?
In some ways, I feel much the same. At the moment, I'm trying to sort out why I allowed some of the things that I did, with the last fellow, so I don't go there again. And it's been almost 6 months, now. Just remember to take the time to truly get yourself sorted out, before you go tripping down this road again. That will put you in a better place, from which to make these decisions. And do also remember, the heart heals. That is also a great lesson for your kids to see: Mom getting on with life.

My perverted seatmate.

Unstable crazy azz individuals.   The new doctor that I work for just broke up with his girlfriend of 10 months and she is calling me to find out who his new girlfriend is.  I was not nice for I told her that I have no obligation to her and that she needs to move on with her life.  I can't help her.  

Last weekend in Florida..


This weekend in NJ..

I like it cold dark and rainy..you can keep Florida.

Damn, that sucks!!! I bet you wish you were back in Florida.

Yes, she prolly does. Where the smell of BenGay and Aspercreme permeate the air. Where the sound of scoooter chairs hum pleasantly in the morning. Where the rush at the local supermarket is for Metamucil and Viagra . . . Ah yes, Florida!

I HATE spammers!!!

my jobs are not easy : most of people say that they are not concerned , and others say that they want to see and after have seen, they want nothing ! , and they buy  what I have shown them... by web ! little cynical ! so I do  job for nothing ,. .  But well it's not real work ,just jobs.(material things !).

Poor Seeker!!!!  

Is it just me or is there suddenly a whole slew of n00B's that have started really random threads about, well, nothing?  I sense reincarnations....