Tuesday, Dec 21, 2010 2:46AM / Members only
I have been wondering this since the beginning when I first signed up to this site. I will get more visitors on my count that don't show up on the actual list. I recognize that people are probably not signed into AnD when they look, thereby making my count go up, but the odd thing is... I haven't actually contributed anything for months... Who is still visiting me and why aren't you signed in? Do you miss me that much? Awwww... I feel loved. Maybe I SHOULD post more stuff. Hmm... I have the time to do it. If I'm still getting visitors... signed in or no... I should be hospitable and have something new and exciting to look at. Hmmmm ... something to think about, huh? After all it's a blog... duh...
Ok ok... you've convinced me... I'll blog... :D
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Friday, Apr 2, 2010 8:52PM / Members only
Just recently I was given a compliment by someone who has become a good friend. When watching a particular character in a show, she said she was reminded of me. Being who I am I was a little flattered and tickled that someone should think of me like that, but I was also uncomfortable. After a long, rough childhood of being a target of not so pretty compliments, most of which I allowed to fester and poison me, I immediately began to refuse the friendly gesture. After a couple of interchanges with her, she let it drop, but it stayed on my mind.
Soon after, I was dressing to go somewhere, and had dolled myself up a bit. Normally, I'm very casual, little make-up if any, jeans, and if I'm going to work, ratty clothes. My hair is usually loose and frizzy on cold days, and just pulled back in a scrunchie or under a cap on warmer days. As I put the finishing touches on my make up and hair, I turned to my son and asked how I look... like I normally do.
"What do I always say to you, Mom?"
"...?"
"You look bee-yoo-ti-ful!" And he gave me a hug and kiss and wandered off.
Immediately, I began thinking he was well-trained and biased, and then I started fussing at my hair more.
Suddenly, it occurred to me that he had given me a compliment even though I fished for it, and of course, I found fault with it. It made me think back to all the different times I had received unsolicited compliments, and had dismissed them. I realized how rude I've been.
I KNOW I'm not perfect, but I also KNOW I have good qualities and that I should be grateful for the compliments when I receive them. A simple "Thank You!" is all anyone needs to hear when giving a compliment, not a list of reasons why they shouldn't be giving it or how it doesn't really apply to the receiver.
To my friends who have complimented me for whatever reason: Thank You!
And finally, to the friends who have had me dismiss their compliment, which is probably all of them, I'm sorry.
Bear with me... I'm still a Work In Progress.
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Sunday, Mar 28, 2010 8:32PM / Members only
Ok... so it's my birthday, and I've decided to try working on my blog... again... This past week I've found myself getting more involved with other people's blogs online, and have enjoyed commenting back and forth on them. Everyone seems to be able to come up with some interesting ideas on what to blog about, so hopefully I can follow suit. To tell the truth, I actually found myself thinking through some stuff and realizing that it would be something I could put on my blog, but dopey me forgot to write it down since I was unable to access the Internet at the time. Since then, I've forgotten what it was. Lesson (hopefully) learned... If I want to write about something, take notes. Any writer should know that... and experienced ones do. Obviously I'm not so experienced... bear with me.
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