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Tuesday, Dec 22, 2009 12:05PM / Standard Entry / Members only

Hmm... Where to start? Well, first things first. I would like to talk about my girlfriend... and her "best" friend. It's been clouding my mind for a long time and it's just getting out of control. Well, my girlfriend (let's call her J) and her "best" friend (calling him K) have known each other for a long time; before we even got to together. No, I am not jealous but recently they have gotten incredibly close and I haven't said anything to my girlfriend because I'm not in the mood to deal with her anger and stubbornness.

Basically, it first started sometime in February 2009, when K had broken up with his girlfriend. J doing what a friend should be doing was being there for him. She lent him a place to crash and food for him to eat. Fair enough, I most probably would do that for a friend. But from that day on, they got closer and closer as friends and I just did not like it.

So the first real thing that I think/ know I should be annoyed about is when one night K was out drinking with his mates. So J said he can come over to crash. And so he did. The next morning, we were meant to go to work together but because K crashed the night. J decided to call in sick, spent the entire day with him and said they will come see me after I finish work. So throughout the day, K had to go back to his home and J went with him. They got back and had some time before they had to leave to come meet me after work. So they decided to have a nap... on the same f*cking bed. (No, they did not sleep with each other but I'm sorry, I don't know what good friend shares the same bed like that). I finished work and because they left late, I had to wait around for them for over an hour. I should have gone home but I was stupid enough to wait around. While waiting around I bumped into a friend (a girl) and we were speaking for a bit. J & K finally arrived, walking towards me with her arm linking his arm. So we went to have dinner and decided to go home afterwards. They dropped me off home first and J said that she was going home but ended up going out with him and didn't have the courtesy to tell me before I left the car. Sigh... It properly pissed me off that day and I think J clearly saw that I was. I finally came out with it and she said that she won't be napping on the same bed with him or any friend like that again.

Second real thing was only recently. Again while I was at work and she said that she'll come see me and have dinner with me after I finish work. But instead K called her out and she went shopping with him. Went home and had dinner with him. They also sat/ lied in the same bed again, talking/ taking pictures or whatever they were doing. When I saw the pictures, I just wanted to smash the laptop or something but instead I just kept quiet. Why say things when you can't keep to your word?

Thirdly, it was on her birthday. I threw her a surprise party. Obviously, I invited him because he's a close friend of hers and you can say to a certain point we are friends too. He bought her a bracelet for a present. It cost £98. What kind of friend buys such an expensive gift for another friend? I know I wouldn't. Also, he was singing "We Belong Together" on the mic. She was filming him and then he decided to sit next to her & then the camera was on the two of them. They were sitting quite close, I think his arm over her shoulder and they were both singing the song together. They are just close friends. I know it sounds stupid but I haven't done anything like that with her before. It's not like I haven't asked because I have and she refused it.

You might be thinking, "You sound like a bitch right now" but I think I have a reason to feel like this. The reason being is I used to have a close friend (my friend's called A). A broke up with her boyfriend and I was there for her on the phone and in person. I invited her out to yum cha/ eat dim sum with my girlfriend a bunch of her friends that I did not know. So, most of the time I was speaking with A. Same thing at another J's birthday. And because of all those times, J did not like it; I decided to speak with A less often. And now J has done things I don't like, it gives me every reason to be unhappy. I want to tell J this but I really don't want to deal with her temper. I spoke with A about all this... and let's just say she's putting ideas into my head.

Haiiiiiiiiii... I don't know what to do!