this blog is actually  from my sister, i just want it to share it with you..hope you learnt as i do..

“Some may say it feels good to have someone. But does it come to a point where you’re doing things that doesn’t define you at all? That doesn’t reflect how you were raised up by your parents? That affects your whole being? Sometimes letting go of what feels good means letting go of what you know is wrong.”

Sometimes the hardest things and the wrong things are the same. There’s a reason it’s so cliché. Most of us experienced enough to know it for a fact and we articulate it again and again for the sake of reminding people that it’s not just a habit of saying.

The truth is, we are always stubborn when its over and in most cases, we’d be pushing backwards to what we misconstrue is right for us on the premise that it’s the one thing that holds us together. Let me talk to you about comfort zones, we get too comfortable. Too comfortable that when the time comes we have to stand up on our own, we waver.

Relationships aren’t comfort zones. We don’t stay because we’re comfortable, because we’ve made ourselves at home. Or because without it, we feel like there is no other way. Relationships are not started to be settled for, but for the people involved to grow together in love and in God. We have to be aware if the relationship we are in has been propping us up or pressing us down from really growing up and becoming the person we dream ourselves to be.

Letting go is hard and the only way out is through, and it takes great courage to know when it is time to. Time to let go, move on, and give our heart what it deserves.

Some of us are scared of being alone. Others fear possibility. I, for one, will be honest in saying that I am frightened by my own vulnerability. Someone once told me that I have to rise above the feeling of being in love in order to overcome this frailty. Though I’ve evicted feelings of understanding and in turn lifted a wall, I seem to still raise my hopes in anything close to what I felt before. I guess that’s what comes with being a heart over mind person; at times I wonder what it would be like if I were rational more than I am emotional.

Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you turn your attention to other things, it comes and sits softly on your shoulder.

Parallel to love.

True, I’ve been looking for love in all the wrong places. Or should I say, in all the wrong people. We are caught up in the moment, carried away, and we take unlimited chances on anyone who makes an impression, when what we should really be doing is waiting, and letting love find us… to take a chance on us. I’ve been chasing after a feeling, for what perhaps could be the wrong reasons, and because of that I know I’ve been taking my chances on the wrong people.

“Another what once-was…? Yes, but I think it was the right thing to do. Though I still face loneliness, I made myself believe that I should not settle, but go for what I deserve even if it means I’ll wait longer. WAITING… is the sweetest stress. I just realized now that God wants me to wait… for me to realize how to really love.

To wait and realize how to really love. So that when the right person comes, who knows how great it would be? Because if it was GREAT then, how much more the next time?

And when that time comes, believe me, I’ll be waiting.